i'm going to answer part of your question with a quote from a dear friend who unfortunately took leave from these forums:
Quote from: define normal.....is it normal for you? do you want it to be normal? do you want others to think it is normal?
Here in the Androgyn Forest it's not even a question. It just is.
(androgyn is the old name of our non-binary unicorn forest. and yes, it was me asking that same question, "is it normal?")
i can say that in my case, it is normal for me, i may not want it to be too normal (all people being gender fluid...?), and i want others to think it's normal (i'm not a freak! at least not in the way you are thinking).
let's suppose that you'll always be fluid.
what do you have to do in order to accommodate all components of yourself as much as possible?
giving full binary transition to one while another is protesting, could easily end in a smaller or bigger catastrophe.
can you envision a future stuck as one and only one gender for the entire rest of your (at least 90 years long) life?
how does that make you feel?
the thought terrified me. and that is the reason i am here, instead of struggling with a binary transition which i doubt would be right for me.