Would you abandon your transition to have a roof over your head?

[Newgirl Dani]

Just one last thing, that above situation of homelessness and substance abuse had one other level underneath it all....dysphoria.  Keep yourself safe Juliette

[Natalie]

I understand the comparison, but illegal narcotic use and gender dyphoria are no where near the same thing. One is an addiction while the other is biological and psychological conflict. At the cognitive levels, those are completely different things all together. One is a "need" the other is an "urge" or "desire."

[Miss_Bungle1991]

I understand the comparison, but illegal narcotic use and gender dyphoria are no where near the same thing. One is an addiction while the other is biological and psychological conflict. At the cognitive levels, those are completely different things all together. One is a "need" the other is an "urge" or "desire."

Yeah, they are different. But in some ways, they are connected. I know if it wasn't for gender dysphoria, I never would have done drugs. But it's what I had to do, because I was very close to ending my life in my teens. So, it was a sort of "mental release valve", so that I could stick around and get to where I am now. These days, I am clean & sober. (I have been for quite a while by now)

[Mariah]

As much as I would want to say why not stop to just survive, I couldn't do it that way. Living that lie before nearly killed me so doing so again almost certainly would this time. I hope I never have to face that dilemma. For those that do, I hope they have the strength and courage to make it through that situation and hopefully don't have to give up on their transition to do it.

[Missy~rmdlm]

I wasn't going to respond to this...but here I am. I personally would not abandon transition. It doesn't even compute. Then again I don't advocate transition, it's something on must do. Plan and hope for the optimum result, which preferably involves survival. Deal with the rest.

Added: Getting a roof over you head is a good idea, it's the terminology that's a problem.

[Lostkitten]

I really hope you get at a better place really soon.

I wouldn't stop transitioning after just getting there. But I would if I really had to, present myself as a guy (but still taking hormones) just to get my parents then off my back (if they were against it). You need someones help now so take what you can get and for your own good for now transition in secret amd come out only the stronger when you do not need your mothers help anymore.

[mrs izzy]

I did not.

I had the chance to put everything back and go back to the lie.

I stood fast and put every effort into not lying to myself.

Walked away from a 23 y marriage and my home to survive.

Everyone walks there own path and you need to do the same.

[Newgirl Dani]

I understand the comparison, but illegal narcotic use and gender dyphoria are no where near the same thing. One is an addiction while the other is biological and psychological conflict. At the cognitive levels, those are completely different things all together. One is a "need" the other is an "urge" or "desire."

I was letting you know that I understood how in your own way you were correct, and offering up an analogy from my life how the strength of need can overpower anything.  What I was not doing was making a comaprison of drugs and dysphoria.  Dani

And to Laura Squirrel, your progress is nothing less than amazing!  Good Job

[Rachel]

Hug, I am sorry this has happened.

I would postpone my transition to a degree so I could obtain the needed assistance. 

[ImagineKate]

Are you really really really reeeeeeeallllly out of options Juliett? If I had to choose I would choose to live and sort out the details later. I would keep up the anti androgens and low dose E if possible.

But I would be at the very end of my rope. One of my hallmarks is that I'm pretty resourceful. I was kicked out by my first wife and pretty much threatened with deportation because she sponsored me. Luckily I survived and I'm a citizen now and I have a very good career I can take anywhere in the world.

So there is hope! Don't give up!

[LordKAT]

Juliett is going to be OK. She has a reprieve for a bit to get something together.