Sexual Orientation

[skin]

I am attracted to women.

I am 6 months into HRT and I have no reason to think my orientation will change in anything other than in name.  Before I said I was straight, now I identify as lesbian 

[Emily1996]

I'm demisexual / pansexual... Pans and Demi Lovato are so hot!

[Violet Bloom]

What would you describe your sexual orientation as?
  Lesbian.  Sex is extremely low on my list of priorities.  I'm not ruling it out but it isn't what drives me.  I need to make a strong friend connection with someone first and foremost and then it makes me start to feel more physical drive towards them.  That said I would only consider someone with a female body and private parts.  Whether or not that includes post-op transwomen remains to be seen but I consider it highly unlikely from a personality standpoint based on the great many I've met.

Do you have any preference in a partner?
  I prefer a woman who is slightly more dominant, slightly boyish in appearance and slightly guyish in personality.  It often makes me think I like transmen but their physical transition ends up turning me off.  If I could blend a non-butch lesbian with the traits of a transman it would probably be perfect.  I'm kinda clueless about how to meet someone like this though.  Oddly, nothing about cis men attracts me whatsoever, either physically or emotionally.

Do you want to get married at any point?
  I would consider it and even starting a family if the right person came along and desired it.  I wish for a woman to be my 'husband', if that makes sense.  The wedding dress is all mine!  Marriage I'm not too late for but children would have to happen within the next ten years max to be practical.  After the costs of my transition are all payed out I'm not sure I can support both a child and my distant retirement.  Guess I gotta marry a rich girl!

Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition?
  No, it did not change at all.  In fact it strengthened and became a lot more clear to me.  I spent most of my life in such a state of anxious confusion that I never pursued sex at all.  Now that I've sorted out my identity I at least understand pretty much exactly what I would seek sexually.  Given how much my identity made sense to me right at the outset of transition it seems to be fully cemented.  I didn't expect or want it to change with hormone therapy, and after one year on HRT it definitely hasn't changed.

[Apple]

Hi speckyhailey,

as for me, during my life before transition (age 30), I thought I was attracted to girls, but it never worked. Then I realized that it was not sexual attraction, but rather being attracted to be close to one's role models - I just wanted to be like them. I also hated boys. For one, they represented what I was forced to be like pre-transition and secondly, I had a lifetime history of being bullied (by boys of course).

Still in male mode, I had explored some local gay university association, coming to the conclusion that this is not for me. They treat each other as men (of course). After realizing the need for transitioning and taking the first steps, I quickly discovered how hugely and overwhlemingly I'm attracted to men. However, there are still a lot of fears associated with them, so it is not easy.

Now after reading this, you might share my surprise that I felt when I fell in love with a woman last year... But still, both of us need a man (or a male-traited person) as their life partner.

Despite never having a male partner, I feel that attraction to men is just natural and direct and easy for me (besides being huge). In comparison, I'm still realizing that I actually do have some true attraction to women, not only as role models. It makes me endlessly wonder how this fits into me. It is just so elusive...

Btw, HRT did not change a thing in itself.

Best Regards,
Apple

[Jaime R D]

My compass points nowhere.

[monica93304]

I'm straight.
I love men.

[Ellie_L]

Preference - Currently I am not attracted to men, but once I have srs I would love to have sex with a man. I really like women but when I have been with them it has been more along the lines of a lesbian relationship.

Partner preference - Personality and intelligence over all. Body type for women - taller and curvy.

Do you want to get married at any point - Yes, I want to fin someone to grow old with

Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition? - I am just starting so it is too early to say.

[Natalie]

What would you describe your sexual orientation as?
I am bisexual. I like women and men with the biologically normal sex organs (i.e. women have a vagina and boobs, guys have a penis and testicles). I include post-operative people in that dichotomous definition thus, a post-operative transsexual woman is just a woman. I am not fond of women I date having a penis. Just unattractive and not sexually appealing to me whatsoever nor are guys that have a vagina.

Do you have any preference in a partner?
I prefer a intelligent girly girls (to an extent) and manly guys (to an extent). I like it when guys are tall and have a lot of well defined muscles with as little body hair as possible. Body hair (on either sex) disgusts me, but more so on girls.  I do not like tomboys or girls that exhibit a lot of masculine personality or behavioral characteristics. Just unattractive and a turn-off to me.

Do you want to get married at any point?
I have a child and do not need any more legal family members in my life.

Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition?
No, it did not change at all.  Sexual orientation does not change because it is not a "choice" or "lifestyle" people consciously choose. A lot of people unconsciously suppress their sexual orientation. Once they start transitioning, and they are no longer oppressing their true personality, they feel more comfortable with who they are so those repressed feelings surface causing them to ignorantly conclude that their sexual orientation magically changed, but it didn't.

Another interesting aspect of my sexuality is that I do not date anything outside the hetero-normative world thus, I won't date men or women that are not "straight." However, I may consider it in some circumstances, but that has rarely ever happened.

[Ash]

What would you describe your sexual orientation as?
Straight as I still like kissing guys.

Do have any preference in a partner?
Blonde and abs and I'm swooning. Way more attracted to gay guys than straight guys though. Like blonde hairdresser skinny jeans gay around my age.
Or if they're a bit older, like still pretty but has to have a good beard and stuff. And straight for these ones.

Do you want to get married at any point?
Is basically one of my biggest fears. Hell no. Even the thought of a relationship sounds terrifying.
I'll just get like ten cats instead. Be much happier.

Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition?
Well currently pre hrt. But like when I was really starting to begin questioning my dysphoria properly, I did develop a little crush on one of my girlfriends. We messed around a bit a few times after some nights out. Started realising I was more jealous of how pretty she was and how she gets to be a girl and I don't than that I was actually attracted to her. Don't really see her too often any more but she was amazing when I kind of told her that I was trans so it all worked out

[Rachel]

I have been with all different types of people in my past, mostly guys. I am married and really love my wife and she loves me. Sexually I identify desire to be with guys; however, I can be with a female.