Pre-Op Female Orgasm and Wife or Female Partner Stimulation

[judithlynn]

Hi everyone.

There have been quite a few threads where the subject has come up about creating the ability to have a female tupe Orgasm as opposed to a male type orgasm for those of us that are on HRT, especially those of us in transition that have had at least 6 months HRT. Also there has been a few people that have indicated that their wife or female partner stimulates them as if they would stimulate another woman.

So my question to all those of us in transition:
1. Can you share  how you would both describe  a "female" type orgasm and also how you would create it ( Read somewhere about moving ones sphincter muscles)
2. For those of us with a female partner or wife. How does you partner stimulate you as a woman

Judith

[Clhoe G]

because there's no sensation like it this is the best I can explain it, for me a female type orgasm is far more intense n far more pleasurable then the typical male orgasm, it lasts far longer n begins at the moment of arousal, which makes foreplay really fun,like kissing, nipple teasing, a touch to the inner or outer thigh, even being undressed by a lover can highten the mood leading to an even more intense orgasm, the typical male doesn't seem to get much out of foreplay, n has a considerably shorter orgasm that only happens in the last moments, but moments after penetration as the g spot/prostate gets stimulated an almost uncontrollable intense feeling of an overwhelming orgasm starts to take over and some lubrication is released, some will ejaculate, but many won't when orgasm reaches it's climax.

I've noticed it depends on my position to get the most out of it, like if I'm on my back I need to have my pelvis tilted up sort of thing, so my "door" is more in between my legs so the guy can never miss my g.spot.

[suzifrommd]

Can't answer #2. For #1, a female orgasm is felt throughout the body - a tingle that goes from head to toe. A male orgasm happens mostly in the genital area. After I'd been on spiro and E for a while, I no longer even felt the "squirt" sensation down below. It was all in the rest of the body.

[Brenda E]

After I'd been on spiro and E for a while, I no longer even felt the "squirt" sensation down below. It was all in the rest of the body.

Sorry girls.  I'm sitting here at the kitchen table sipping my morning coffee, just like half of the entire US adult population, waiting for the kids to get ready for school, and instead of perusing the newspaper and glancing at stories about the budget or Israel or the latest earnings from General Electric, I'm reading stuff about the "squirt" sensation - or lack thereof - and it seems utterly, utterly normal to me.  Like, "Oh, that's interesting, I get that too."  And I just had one of those WTF moments where being transgender just slaps me in the face (in a good way).

[kathyk]

I'm pre-op, but have recently had these wonderful experiences.  What I've discovered is a fantastic tingling like Suzi described, and then a shuddering body contraction that feels as though a bunch of senses give way all at once.  This seems to last forever, and can happen several times during sexual encounters.  This has come up in group discussions and the post-op girls have said it only got better after the operation.  My therapist said our nervous systems change to recognize where we should have a vagina, and stimulation becomes very natural. I've heard it called a Phantom Vagina.

My pre-op partner and I don't do anal stuff so there's no direct stimulation of the prostate.  But the climax is brought on through pleasurable massage and pressure on the area between the scrotum and anus, along with gently playing with what's left of the penis.  I so much want that thing gone as it has become quite painful when it's handled too roughly). 

[Clhoe G]

It lasts far longer n begins at the moment of arousal, which makes foreplay really fun,like kissing, nipple teasing, a touch to the inner or outer thigh, even being undressed by a lover can highten the mood leading to an even more intense orgasm,

I think the Indians call this n touchless orgams, some sort of "tantric" thing, I think I might start looking into that more, it's something about prolonging orgasm n something about getting 'tantric energy" after sex... Or something

[Jenna Marie]

Back when I was pre-op... My wife paid a lot of attention to breasts and other erogenous zones (try touching all over and see what works!) and I was often able to orgasm from nipple play alone. If she did touch anything down below, and sometimes I wasn't in the mood for that, it would be through panties and she'd either position the glans of the penis up near my pubic bone to rub it gently like a clitoris or put her hand down where my vagina was going to be and massage there (obviously no penetration possible, but it's still possible to sort of "dent" the skin in and pretend).

Honestly, though, a big part of what worked was that *she* saw me as a woman - that it was clear that in her mind she was making love to a fully functional woman, which turned me on because I could ignore all the "distractions" about my equipment.

[Randi]

Arousal is more subtle and can take much longer.  Male arousal, for me, was demanding and insistent.  It could happen quickly and I just wanted relief.

Of course feminine bodies have much more sensitive skin and many more erogenous zones.  Being aroused is pleasurable in itself and an orgasm is not necessarily required.  It can take me a long time, up to 40 minutes of "making out", to reach that peak.  After I've satisfied my wife with manual and oral stimulation, she starts to work on me.  I almost never get a solid erection, but after she sucks on my boobs for while the old fella seems to come back to life.  I like having my neck kissed, and my upper thighs and perineum rubbed gently.

I actually sense a sort of phantom vagina.  Pressure in my crotch is as pleasurable as stimulating my glans.  When my wife gives me the option of fellatio or sucking my nipples, I usually take the nipples.

I consider myself very lucky that I can still please my wife and that she seems to relish my breasts, and my soft skin.  We had a truth telling session years ago and she said the she never really liked penetration all that much. Clitoral stimulation is what she likes.  Later we found that fingers were much more useful for stimulating the G-Spot.

She's happy, I'm happy.

Randi