Ah, thanks for responding hun. OMG, yes, the secrecy. Most of my immediate family knows & friends. Relatives on the east coast, no, but I don't get there often enough to matter. My wife has a cousin that accidentally found out. Her brother & his wife don't know, nor their kids & relatives. My wife doesn't want to tell them, having to live a lie to them drives me nuts. Beyond the LGBTQIA village in Toronto, my wife doesn't want to go out with me as Jamie in our area.
We could pm for a meeting (that takes location out of here).
Be safe.
Jamie