i found that feeling male or female and trying to live it for a longet period of time, always makes the gender pendulum swing equally far out to the other side, and rather violently too.
my mind needs balance, and finding a place where i can dress female when geeling male and male when feeling female as well as dressing according to feeling, eventually made the pendulum's swings smaller.
it was all about not forcing myself or trying anything, but rather just being from day to day.
i can't tell if it will be the same for you.
will less expectations of your own gender free itor throw you into chaos.
you won't find out unless you try.
i'm online male and offline female.
but in both spheres, i allow myself some queerness.
that has helped me find balance.
i can't tell what benefits there are to seeing a gender therapist.
the ones i've talked to seemed to think i already know who i am, and i agreed with them.
but maybe if you don't know, they can help you a lot more.
worth trying at least.
around here, there is no shaming of people who think they are and then find out they're not.
many of us have thought worse than genderqueer. or much less.
there is no need to come out as a label.
for some people, it could be anout to say that you'd like to change pronouns to see if they fit better.
or like i came out to a friend, i just said i'm wanting to take hormones to become manlier.
was easy to understand, and reasons didn't need to be explained in depth.
i will never give my gender a "proper" name. it doesn't want a label, refuses to fit into any simple word.
the label i did give it, has a little more meaning than the common ones...
instead of labelling me, i'll just tell people what i feel (like doing) about gender related stuff when it seems not too unnatural.
