nope. I also didn't come out to almost anyone pre-T. I kind of let the changes speak for themselves. At some point people just switched. I never asked anyone to specifically. In fact my family asked if I wanted them to switch and I just said that they should whenever it came naturally to them. Sometimes my dad still calls my sister and I "The girls." I don't let it get to me. He'd been using that title for us for 20 years before I transitioned. Both of my parents are super supportive. Whats in a word? I know who I am. Really I tried to let the transition happen as naturally as I could. I never minded my female name, but many of the people I knew eventually just felt weird calling me a female name and switched to the male... maybe they thought I cared? I have a friend or two that still call me my old name. I like it. They've asked if it bothers me. It really doesn't. I didn't even want to change my name to begin with, but my mom convinced me it was a good idea. I'm glad I did now. Its a sweet name, and it probably makes things like getting jobs easier.
My transition was more for me than anyone else. Sure, its nice to be called he or sir without question and to be judged/held to male clothing standards rather than female, but I transitioned to feel more comfortable in my own skin. Gendered words are just words to me.
It also sounds kind of harsh to say, but people also just don't have the time to remember to call you male when they read you as female. It'd be nice if they did, but they see a person their brains tell them the person is female based on every other experience they've ever had in their lives (we start socially gendering people really really young) and they say she or her because that is what slips out of their brains.
Its like that experiment where you look at the names of colors on notecards that are written in other colors. Sometimes its hard to make the connection. BLUE ORANGE YELLOW GREEN PURPLE RED You're supposed to name the color the word is written in, but you end up reading the word instead (or visa versa). Sometimes people aren't trying to be douchey. Its just what they see you as. Sometimes that truly sucks, but you can only expect so much out of the people around you no matter how supportive they try to be. Like the guy who said he has trouble remembering someone is a dude... Its not his fault his brain says female when he is with you. Its programmed in. He's obviously trying to be supportive by saying dude and bro a lot to remind himself, but its hard to switch something so deeply ingrained in us.
That being said some people are just ignorant douchebags. They'll mock the kid with downs syndrome or in a wheelchair. Some people just suck. I wish they didn't, but I definitely know of a few people who have probably said, or at least thought, some ->-bleeped-<- about me. I don't care because I'm more comfortable with me now. Thats all I care about.
I might've gotten off topic there, but I think its all somewhat relevant... Long story short though: The people who you think are humoring you are probably just trying their best to not offend you. They don't understand being trans. They're not experienced or in any way knowledgeable on trans issues. You're probably the only trans person they've ever met. To them you are a girl who wants to be a boy. They don't understand how thats any different from someone being a boy who was born in a female body (and really, other than semantics, is it actually any different?). Body and gender to them have always been synonymous.
