Hey there
(English is not my native language so my apologies for any mistakes)
Long writing coming up so be aware :p
So i'm a cis women but from my earliest memories i wanted to be a boy. I have an older brother and my mother olso prefers boys over girls so she din't think any bad obout me dressing as a boy and wanting to have my hair short. around the age of 14 I was already all my life heavily bullied. But bullieng got worse becaus boys of my class starting to grap me trying to find out of i was really a girl and after treating "me as a girl". i changed school and start dressing as a girl an acting like a girl. The bullieng stopt and i like that know i was just normal, slightly introvert but left alone. Years past and i still would prefer to be a boy but a manged the life of a girl.
in previous years and later, I have experienced various forms of abuse by men.
At 26 me and my girlfriend wanted to start a familly and so whe did.
everything went well until we came after the sex of the baby. A boy,.. the abuse of men left me with more mental scars then i knew and the tought of having a men in the house for the coming 18years scared me. I olso have a problem with physical contact with men. I don't wont there skin to touche mine,. I know really stupid i din't think of it befor we made the desion to get pregnant,. I tought my issus would be not that bad i it happend to be a boy.
The issu around him being a boy and having a good relationship with him as possible i'm having therapy for.
But it was hearing it was a boy made my world collapsed on a differt factor to. At first i tryed to deal with it rational.
"I also wanted to be a boy and i a was i woudn't be a men like the men i met privious in my life".
but that thinking has brought my thoughts back to wanting to be a boy. Olso when our son got born the feeling of wanting to be male meself got a lot worse, seening him having that penis i always wanted to have, I realise that i numbed myself from the feeling and i'm just living a emty life trying to be "normal".
I talked to my girlfriend about it and she loves me no matter what. Boy or girl,.
But my world is still shaking. I want to be a boy but i don't wanne be around men. I'm lost and dont know what to do. I love that as a girl i can hang out around girls as just one of the girls. Personaly i really dont like men in social contact. The tought to have to be in a men's present scareds me ( like in a bathroom, if i ever need to be in a hospital having to share a room with a men,,.)
But at the same time i'm really not ok with my body being female. Whe it summer i dress always to heavy becaus i feel really bad about showing my body, at work i always hated to look chic the way a girl "needs to dress"
Really thinking of maybe starting to change and be who i feel inside, but i don't know of it is possible with my issus of being around men.
Any people here who have simelar story's? Of transitioning to male having trauma's about men?