Quote from: Jessica Merriman on October 27, 2014, 08:09:38 AM
Well if a friend tried to grab my breast he would not be grabbing anything for several weeks until the cast came off. Please do not use the excuse of his upbringing. People know what is right and wrong.
OK, I guess a couple things are needed here during this temprorary middle stage I'm in, can be resolved. First, I'm not offering up an excuse 'for' him, I was just trying to put this in perspective as to what the circumstanses are around it. Second, here is why I did not react as I would have at any other time in my life. Being a loner my entire life, and I mean that literally, I have stayed away from any social situations period. I have never ever tried to make a friendship. I have no idea whatsoever how people kid each other, to what degree does someone take something seriously, which also means for the first time I had to understand boundries. My understanding of what people do as friends is at absolutel zero!! I know that must sound strange coming from someone 63 yrs old, but I just dont know what friends do in any way shape or form. I have been an island and been alone all my life and here I was in the middle of my first attempt. This is why I put aside 'every' reaction I would normally have had until I could try to think this thru.
Is this even the kind of friendship I even want to have?
Is this simply a setting of boundaries?
Like I also said prior, I probably should not have said anything until I had had time to think on this a bit. My guess is that there will not be anyone out there who truly knows what it may be like to try to do at 63 what is done at 10.
For anyone who cannot imagine how a situation like this can happen, I grew up very very far out in the woods, no neighbors, only native in a tiny school, raised in a non-communicative family (utterly complete), a series of unbelievably dysfunctional step dads, doing needle dope from 14 on, then stayed under the radar until age 43 when I got c/s,
I feel kind of weird throwing all this out there, but I 'think' I am beginning to understand how my statement could be read, and the person saying to themselves, why the hell was no action taken right at the moment? Hope this answers that, I have a loooong way to go, in more than just transgender issues. Dani
