I told my fiancé when I was 27 but I didn't try to transition for the sake of our relationship; we broke up when I was 32, then I met another woman about a year later, and we got engaged the following year, then I came to the realization that transition was inevitable for me, so I broke up with her. I started the transition process when I was 35, and my therapist was the first person I came out to since telling my first fiancé, and the next person I told was my mom.