I was stood down from work today by my manager after a complete meltdown following being misgendered by an instructor who probably didn't know any better. He's an external contractor and wasn't around when I came out, so was never told either way over my gender. He happened to be around when an argument broke out between my friend and an instructor over changing my name on a spreadsheet, where the past name was used and possibly female pronouns. Hopefully he was just confused and there was no malice behind what he said, but it didn't stop it having a devastating effect on me.
I'm not sure if it's right to have a quiet word to apologise for not going directly to the instructors and just vanishing to the manager, and asking if I missed anything vital (I know I didn't), or whether I should just pretend nothing happened.
I'm not going to apologise for the effect it had on me, because it's not my fault, but I don't want any awkwardness, and there probably will be. The manager had a word with both of them on my behalf, and explained that she'd stood me down, and that only male pronouns and Alex should be used to refer to me.
