Coming out as trans after coming out as gay?

[Ash]

Just wondering if anyone else has any experience with regards to this?
Like there are some things about it that are pretty nice. But sometimes I hate it.
The best being I can act super girly and sort of be the real me and people just assume I'm super gay or something. Which also helps I suppose in that it isn't as shocking coming out to close friends that actually get to see my gay male side? And I did have a few gay contacts as of a result of thinking I was a gay male.

Think it was easier for me to try and just be a gay male instead of accepting I was and am a female.

But now a lot of what I get is, why don't you just stay as a gay guy?
Or you're just a messed up or depressed gay or something stupid like that.
And even with some of my friends, the dynamics of some of the relationships haven't changed. Like I was pretty much the tv standard sassy gay best friend to some.
But I'm almost expected to remain as such. Still the guy of the friendship if you get me?
Like 90% of my friends are girls btw.

Plus some people it was very tough to come out to. And having to go through it again, only trans isn't nearly as easy to come out as for me anyway. And I kind have that I was lying to them feeling, even though I know how silly it sounds, even though I still do only like males.

Bleh. Not sure where I'm even going with this kind of.
But maybe someone else has had to come out twice and kind of knows where I'm coming from?

[ssneha23]

I have not gone through what you described. But I have discussed this with my therapist. She said doing the gay and trans coming out would confuse people and would question the truthfulness is what you said. They would be like either you are lying about being gay or being trans. Per me coming out once is hard enough. Let alone twice. I would want to be honest about who I am...

[Ash]

Well I did think I was gay when I was younger. Well at least identified as that.
But even with new people now, I still come out as gay instead of female because it is just so much easier and much more accepted.
Even though I hate myself for doing it. And they'll then still probably just think of me as gay if I later come out as trans.
Only able to come out to close friends or if I've had the odd drink or ten