diversity and unity, the cross cultural force of trans

[Satinjoy]

I have been enjoying our great cultural, locational and spiritual diversity found here in the Nonbinary section.

We sometimes get passionate about lots of identity stuff, but I have never seen anyone disrespected for their spiritual beliefs, location, social strata... it's like all that is just icing on the forest cake, added flavor for an already powerful and inspiring message.

Messages of hope, shared pain, small victories, big ones where lives are saved or changed.

This is big stuff, this forum.

Let's take the thread wherever the path wanders, to celebrate our diversity, our victories, what was gifted to us be being part of this very special place.

Love to all here,

Satinjoy.

[Karen345]

Uhh... probably not what you were thinking, but I found out people were okay with my weird sci-fi obsessions and tendency to draw myself as an anthropomorphic wolf. It's nice being able to goof off and talk about odd ways of presenting yourself with people who get it.

[Taka]

it's not so much about getting it, as never thinking you already know all the truths in this world.
with enough curiosity, and less loyalty to rigid norms, anything that's interesting and fascinating can be easily accepted.

because we really are interesting and fascinating. not only us, but all people.
and it's a truth that is often way too well hidden behind uninspiring and depressing norms.

[Satinjoy]

In the third grade we were asked what we wanted to be when we grew up.

Some wanted to be firemen, some farmers, some just like their dad's.

Now, in hindsight I guess this is my own response.o

When I grow up, I want to be a cross addicted alcoholic transsexual Christian Broadway actor that races cars, works in construction, got married, has kids, and helps alcoholics and transpeople find themselves and a new way of life and self perception, while staying alive against the odds.

Walking the tightrope, as far as trans goes actually dancing a cross it, learning how to live free.

And my closest friends are from every walk of life you can imagine.

The stakes of trans cuts through everything for me. What matters to me is I found you, and more, that you found me, and if I lose it all, I have somewhere to run.

Love to all here.

Satinjoy

[Dread_Faery]

Forced to live in a gender binary that does not acknowledge our existence, we're a rag tag bunch of miss-fits on the run from the cistem. If you're questioning your place in the world of the binary gender you can call the NB-Team!!!

[suzifrommd]

Forced to live in a gender binary that does not acknowledge our existence, we're a rag tag bunch of miss-fits on the run from the cistem. If you're questioning your place in the world of the binary gender you can call the NB-Team!!!

LOL

My first thought: "Wha-a-a?"

My second thought: "Ohhhh! I remember that."

[Dread_Faery]

I love it when a plan comes together

[JulieBlair]

But what if when I flush, the cistem overflows?

[Mark3]

But what if when I flush, the cistem overflows?

OMG... They sell something for that down here, CIS-ex or RID-ex, saw it at Wal mart..!

[Mark3]

Seriously though,

One of the best things about trans to me is my "alone time"..
In the real world, we all have our demons, insecurities, apprehensions and fears concerning trans and living open day to day.
But when I'm alone, I can really really really be me, and since I discovered myself, its so much better of a life, and I'm so much happier, its like a drug when I'm alone, and can be 100% high octane trans me..! I still can't do that in public, not sure when, or if I'll ever be able to do that fully.??

Like I was thinking tonight, I'm going to be able now to someday kneel before God, and be able to thank him for making me this way, finally I understand what " making me this way" really means, and its earth shaking to me.!

I'm being more open now to my best friends(3) in real life, and its going fairly well. I'm still pretty much a bumbling fool around strangers though, but I know my introvert personality has much to do with that..
But online, I'm feeling very comfortable now being open and authentic, and wondering why I had such fear in the first place.? I have some from here on my Fb now, so I know I'm in very good company, even with my CIS friends.. I'm really feeling very confident..

I'm also starting to be a little more curious about presentation, something I swore I'd never feel, but I'm sensing now when I start flowing towards my female mind, and maybe feel there's something lacking in my appearance when I'm in that place.? I guess that is another topic for another day.?

Now I've forgot the original topic questions, so I'm ending here..

[Taka]

just add to the diversity, mark.
presentation can be so many things.
for some people, it's a kind of statement of who they are.
for some people, it's more like listening to their own desires.
for me, it's mostly practical issues. can't walk around without clothes, and apparently people like decent clothing better.
so i take whatever decent clothes i can find fist in my closet...

but nail polish or hair dye or all those little details, are things i wear because i like them.
pretty color, i want it!
or, cool chain, i'm wearing that today.
the accessories have a tendency to fit with clothing, only my hair and occasionally nails are often very out of tune.

[Mark3]

just add to the diversity, mark.
presentation can be so many things.
for some people, it's a kind of statement of who they are.
for some people, it's more like listening to their own desires.
for me, it's mostly practical issues. can't walk around without clothes, and apparently people like decent clothing better.
so i take whatever decent clothes i can find fist in my closet...

but nail polish or hair dye or all those little details, are things i wear because i like them.
pretty color, i want it!
or, cool chain, i'm wearing that today.
the accessories have a tendency to fit with clothing, only my hair and occasionally nails are often very out of tune.

That makes a ton of sense Taka.
I don't honestly desire wearing things that would shout out, "I'm Trans", yet except for my jewelry which I love too, there's little I can do to create a personal style, cept polish maybe, but the years haven't been very kind as far as hair etc. .  But maybe that's enough for me.?? I'm still contemplating that stuff..?

Since I spend an aweful lot of time running fashion web pages, I tend to see things that are really beautiful to me. That kinda rubs off into my mind when I look into my side of the closet and see only black t shirts and cargo pants(mostly).. I get kind of disappointed, but know that financially we're pretty tapped out right now, and even with a blank credit card, I'm not sure I can even get used to dressing different, even though I might fantisize about it a lot.?

I really like thinking about this, and talking about it in a supportive environment like here..

[Taka]

clothes are fun, and if you ever see something sky blue or turquoise on sale, try it on. buy it if it fits and you can.
just heard from our psychiatrist that the color invites to communication.

darker blue tones are good for relaxation, purple for reflection, yellow for concentration.
red is best when going to war, which is why only men got to wear pink before feminism.

[JulieBlair]

Ouch,  I love pink but enchewed war decades ago.  But yes clothes, makeup, accessories are all fun and I love to play with them, or to let them be depending on my mood.  That is what is so freeing about living authentically.   I need not be bound by convention, I can be creative or demure.  I can be feminine or androgynous.   It is good to just be and to smile sometimes.

Peace,
Julie

[Satinjoy]

I am enjoying the andro style lately.  It feels really good, a new facet for my rock.

[justpat]

   With acceptance came freedom, with freedom came joy and happiness, with them came the ability to be who I truly am, a complex NB human being who loves helping others.