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other people feel this way right?

Started by kittylover, November 02, 2014, 06:59:46 PM

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kittylover

November 02, 2014, 06:59:46 PM
my brain really overreacts to being misgendered ,as if they're attacking me or something even when I know they have no reason to think I'm not a girl. It's such a strong reaction that I'll avoid people and situations where I think I'll be misgendered. I feel like something's wrong with me and it's not supposed to hurt so much . can somone please tell me I'm not alone?
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Sosophia

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November 02, 2014, 07:02:24 PM
I m like that too , but i dont feel like its overeaction to me .
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stephaniec

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November 02, 2014, 07:21:19 PM
like poison darts from a blow gun
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Edge

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November 02, 2014, 08:13:49 PM
It's like a punch in the gut.
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mrs izzy

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November 02, 2014, 08:43:28 PM
Happened yearsssss ago.

I just look at the and say excuse me. Then go about my business.

People are not worth the time.
Mrs. Izzy
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killedbydeath

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November 02, 2014, 09:30:46 PM
You're definitely not the only one. The sting of being misgendered never goes away.
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Mariah

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November 02, 2014, 09:47:42 PM
Especially when it's done by those who knew you before you started transitioning.
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You're definitely not the only one. The sting of being misgendered never goes away.
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Skylar105

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November 02, 2014, 10:20:07 PM
I actually suffer from the same thing. I was wondering if other people experienced it to the same extent as I did lol. (Today actually.) I deal with it day in and out (as I still present as guy.) even at home it never ends. o.o it makes my blood boil when someone calls me he and usually makes me feel like a failure. :O The only way I've found to make it stop is to sleep. (It's worse when I don't have enough sleep.) my therapist hasn't been useful in the matter and to me it hurts more than losing someone close. (Each trigger.)

But I understand your pain and you aren't alone. I'm honestly kind of glad I seen this topic as I was thinking I'm alone on the matter.
I'm always looking for more people to chat with! :)
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kittylover

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November 03, 2014, 07:30:10 AM
Quote from: stephaniec on November 02, 2014, 07:21:19 PM
like poison darts from a blow gun
exactly ....tottally accurate description. I've had many well meaning cis freinds say things about misgendering "making me uncomfortable" that I started to wonder if that isn't supposed to be a huge understatement
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JennX

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November 03, 2014, 11:20:35 AM
Yep... that's normal and it happens. Difference is if it was intentional or not... but either way I'd be pissed.  >:(
"If you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain."
-Dolly Parton
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LordKAT

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November 03, 2014, 12:52:40 PM
You are definitely not alone. The darts from a blow gun analogy is pretty accurate of how it feels to me.
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