beards

[Satinjoy]

I am curious, how many of us have beards...by choice or necessity?

There is one under my hand, by necessity.

Facial or other hair?

Can't stand it on the body....just the face for me, and as short as I can.

This will be a strange topic I think, bet nobody posts.

Blessings

Satinjoy

[Pikachu]

I'll post just so you're not all alone in this thread, SJ.

I shave my face about every three days, so I often have a stubble-y look. Oddly, sometimes I pass by the mirror and think I look more feminine somehow with a bit of stubble. The reason I wait that long between is because it seems like I get a closer shave when I let it grow out a bit first, and I so love the feeling of that really close shave.

[VeronicaLynn]

I mentioned that I've let it grow out this week in another thread. It's interesting, I think people treat me better with it, maybe I weird them out too much clean shaven...

I'm still the same person, even if I might have a short beard instead of 5 o'clock shadow that's visible by 11am. The way I see it, I could shave it off tonight(Friday night), if I really wanted to, and go in to work Monday like I just trimmed it a bit to close, but still have the beard look for work...I am going to keep it short so this is possible, and besides, long is ugly, unless it's like ZZ Top long, then it's cool.

[King Malachite]

I wish I could grow a ZZ Top-like long beard.

[VeronicaLynn]

I wish I could grow a ZZ Top-like long beard.

Not all MAAB can either, I certainly can't, and I'm guessing Frank Beard would if he could, as it's a bit ironic that he doesn't.

[noeleena]

Hi.

Depends if your a female or not and having fluff on your face is..... well prefer not to,  now i know some women cant  help their hormones and the changes they bring and some do have more hair on their faces, so allso have to shave  it off,

and many cant do lazer or other detail and i know the cost is pretty high and does not allways work , so im working on it, with epilating , and shaving  just something to put up with , so maybe a little different for those of us who are women.

...noeleena...

[Mark3]

I am curious, how many of us have beards...by choice or necessity?

There is one under my hand, by necessity.

Facial or other hair?

Can't stand it on the body....just the face for me, and as short as I can.

This will be a strange topic I think, bet nobody posts.

Blessings

Satinjoy

I keep waiting for your hand to move.?? I think its cool.

I have the option of a beard, but I usually like the feel of smooth skin, and mostly shave.
There's this one point in my beard, maybe after 2-3 days when it just looks awesome, I feel really confident with it.. But a day or 2-3-4 later, I feel like a crochity old grumpy Sea Captain or something, then I hate it..

[Mark3]

Oh, and you added "other hair" to your sentence..?
Maybe once in a while, it just feels better down there...?

[Pikachu]

I wish I could grow a ZZ Top-like long beard.

For the longest time after I first grew facial hair, I didn't shave. Mine still never came close to the dudes in ZZ Top. It seemed to reach a certain point and then stop growing.

[tracy176]

I never have a beard ive had laser done just have to shave the blonde ones every couple days

[King Malachite]

Not all MAAB can either, I certainly can't, and I'm guessing Frank Beard would if he could, as it's a bit ironic that he doesn't.

Well if T can't get the job done for me, there is always a disguise!

For the longest time after I first grew facial hair, I didn't shave. Mine still never came close to the dudes in ZZ Top. It seemed to reach a certain point and then stop growing.

My best bet would be to look to my males in my family and their facial hair, particularly my father and brother.  Unfortunately, they usually shaved often so I couldn't see the full extent of how long their facial hair could get.  It looked promising though.... not ZZ Top style, but still okay.

[Asche]

I have a beard.   I generally trim it so it's around 1" (2 cm) long.  It's softer if it's longer, but I think it makes me look uncivilized.  (Yes, I want to look civilized, for some reason.)

I've thought a lot about why I don't shave it off, given that I wear skirts or dresses most of the time.  So far, here's what I've come up with (subject to change w/o notice ):

• Shaving isn't comfortable.  I shave my neck, but it irritates the skin.
  
• I"m afraid I'd have five-o'clock-shadow, or stubble, and I've never liked the look.  (To be blunt: it grosses me out.  I think it's that it comes across to me as a certain kind of masculinity that I particularly hate.)
  
• The rest of my body is too obviously male.  Since I wear "feminine" clothing, I'm afraid that without the beard, my presentation would be ambiguous.  For reasons I don't fully understand, an ambiguous presentation and/or social role/position makes me feel really anxious and unsettled, like I could be blind-sided at any minute.  I dread being in a position where I imagine I could be "caught."  I feel safer in the role of "guy who dresses funny" than in the "is it a boy or a girl?" role.
  

I've thought a lot about transition.  I think if I believed I could effectively pass as a woman (not necessarily a good-looking one, just clearly female), I probably would do it.  That would involve getting rid of the beard, and of all the things I'd have to "give up" if I transitioned, that would be the thing I would miss the least.

Actually, I've pretty much decided I'd like to start electrolysis, starting with the parts I already shave and progressively shrinking the area of my beard.  But I haven't gotten around to finding someone to do it.  (There's a severe shortage of "round tuits" in my house    )  I'm also told it is "expensive," but I don't know what that means in dollars.  After all, a $10 coffee is called "expensive", while a $10,000 car is called "cheap."

[LivingTheDream]

I developed a beard when I first started puberty. I didn't like it but I didn't want to shave it so I rocked a beard, mustache, uni-brow for about a year or so...I didn't want to shave because my parents told me that once you shave it, it grows back faster and thicker. I definitely didn't want that so ya, kept it for about a year. The summer before either 8th grade-10th grade, somewhere in there, I did finally shave it off. I have always kept it shaved since then. I just feel "dirty" I guess or scruffy or something when it starts to get really noticeable and I feel much better after it is gone. One of the first things I did when I found out about all this, started transition, was to start getting it removed via laser. It was a safe first step for me, even if I later figured out that I wasn't trans or stopped transitioning, I wouldn't miss facial hair at all, so can get it removed w/o worrying about anything cuz I want it gone anyway. But ya, I can't stand body or facial hair at all...

[Satinjoy]

This thread is blowing me away, it is so encouraging.  I didn't think anyone would post...
And having king m post is a treat for me. All of you my dears....

Hope taka and jayce and everyone else jumps in.


Mark I can't move the hand, I can validate my face heavy gq, but with my hair on, the beard hurts to see, I hate it full transition times.  But if I show it, a powerful political statement, it puts me at risk of exposure to some very cruel folk.

Love to all here, this thread is making me feel better.

Socially, as genderqueer, I love having it, I feel so strong mixing binaries out there, it feels like getting even with the ice bullies by being in their face with it, shaming them with being relentlessly kind and filled with ... let's call it spirituality here.  Joy.

Love to all here, big time.

Blessings

Satinjoy

[EchelonHunt]

I get a facial/body hair from having been on testosterone for four years, never been game enough to let it grow further than a few days at a time. Long story short, facial/body hair is a trigger for dysphoria for me, who desires the fem-andro look of feeling smooth and hairless. Most likely going to look at laser hair removal or electrolysis in the future. For now, shaving is suffice enough to keep the dysphoria at bay.

I have thought about rocking a mo' for Movember but it took five seconds for me to realize how much of a bad idea that would be.

[teema]

Hav`nt got hair anywhere,shave it all,thinking about buying a home laser kit for my face hair too.Btw Satinjoy your face is so pretty,i love your cheekbones!Wish I could see all of you!

[Dread_Faery]

Definitely no facial hair here... Well not visible facial hair.

[Shantel]

I never cared for facial hair and have little to no body hair (probably being more highly evolved  ) don't take me too seriously there, just some of Auntie Shan's snarky sense of humor. I know body hair is a real pain for some, guess I'm just lucky. I had sort of reddish blonde hair before it all turned grey so I was stuck with a couple of years of bi-monthly electrolysis sessions and though I had pretty light facial whiskers I finally tired of electrolysis and feeling like someone's personal ATM and quit. I shave every day whether I have to or not and if I let it go for a week all I can see is a scattering of silver stars twinkling back at me in the mirror. I don't like how it feels when I run my hand across it, so the only time that ever happens is if I happen to go hunting with the bozos, which hasn't happened in several years now as I'm no longer so inclined.

I used to run a lumber yard, one of the many hats I wore during my working life. Several Neanderthals would come in with a chew of tobacco under their lip and breath that smelled like ->-bleeped-<-. They sported a lot of facial hair, beards and mustaches with part of their morning breakfast still stuck in it. I often had an Ewwwww moment as I wondered why they wanted to look like walruses, and found it rather incredulous that any woman would be attracted to these people who seemed like characters straight out of the movie "Deliverance." Don't let me get under anyone's skin here, it's just my personal take on things and I tend to be rather opinionated at my age. Sorry if I step on any toes!

[Satinjoy]

Thanks teema.

Trigger triggered... a curiosity thread suddenly shifts on me into dysphoria pain, what a tightrope we may walk... and noone triggered me but my own self.


Mtf sisters be careful ..... don't suggest ful transition to me dears, the threads go to he'll when it happens.

When beard dysphoria hits, I have to look at component strengths and appreciate them.

Satinjoy is getting stronger in many ways daily, though Nonbinary reality is unshaken.

I lean hard on you when I feel like this my dear ones, it can get dangerous to me without the many here that help me get through the day, once the dysphoria passes to less than too much, the joy of living always returns. 

A day at a time.  Since this is the only way I can live, acceptance becomes crucial.

I won't trade the wife for full transition, the beard is my gift to her, and she , gave me the rest of my body, and her intimate embrace, and love.

It's worth the pain.  Socially I need the beard too.

Uggghh.

[suzifrommd]

Had a mustache for about 20 years. Really liked the way I looked until it started turning gray.