Flushed me out of my treehouse.
There is a thread that asks what pronoun we prefer to be used for ourselves.
Another possibility is to list it in the profile near the avatar.
Deliberate use of a pronoun to invalidate or hurt, obvously just plain foolishness, intolerable.
Accidental, well, thats typical isnt it. Because it is individual. They and them are the polite way usually to refer to us, to be politically correct if you do not know.
That pronoun thread should be stickied on this forum in this section.
It could potentially help others.
Most people wont read it, but it gives us an opportunity to express ourselves.
Like mine. Sh'e, h'er. Very unique.
We do not limit ourselves in our choices. Its not in our nature to do so, generally, its not in mine.
I was once asked, in 15 seconds, what is a nonbinary?
To me, it is anyone that includes parts of themselves that are seen as their birth gender, and parts that are not their birth gender, and embrace these parts, internalize it and integrate it into the core of their lives. Sometimes expressing it, sometimes hiding it, but never appologizing for it, and since this self knowledge came at a horrifying cost to many of us, when it is called rationalization or inauthentic or temporary, as a group, we get really upset.
And I will say it again. Binaries are authentic and have the absolute and total right to be authentic binaries, that is their truth.
Nonbinaries are authentic and have the absolute and total right to be authentic nonbinaries, that is their truth.
So what the heck is the big deal with figuring that out. The rejection of that simple statement destroyed an entire section of the forum.
Just dumb. Total foolishness, it should never have come to that, to the loss of so much knowledge.
That knowledge, before I pop off forum again as I do now, that knowledge is in the thousands of wise posts in this section. if you are new, search that past, learn from it. You can ask me my thoughts if you wish, though I am not here much, and there are searches that reveal more, we all do searches on hormones and stuff.
See through the eyes of others, think gently and kindly, set captives of fear and self loathing free. That is what being trans is about. That vision in here was lost. It can be found again, by those who remain, but those who will come. it is up to you to write the new chapters though. You have an unwritten book, you will write your legacies, and they will remain for future generations to learn from, to judge, to expand. That is your destiny if you read in this or any other section, you life touches others, it is up to you whether you wish to touch for good, or for the creation of pain. Your words will remain either way, even if they did not, the memories will remain.
Write your legacies well, wisely.
I will drop in, from time to time, but not very much. My words are in here in other places, other pages, they may help you. I leave a legacy, but I do remain, just, not very much. I lost my friends in here, except for a few.
Cindy is a friend...she is binary, she is a friend.... I have binary friends...nice ones, leaving legacies....
What legacy will you leave, my friends, as you write your name in the sands of time?
Blessings.
