Home for the holidays!

[androgynouspainter26]

Well, it's that wonderful time of year again where family gathers under one roof for a charming dinner-and it all devolves into one giant shouting match.  I thought it might be good to start a thread to chat about such stuff...it's good to let off the tension somewhere.

Personally, my folks are...trying.  But I have a hard time forgiving them for some of the things they put me through as a kid, and I don't know if it's wrong of me to hold onto that stuff.  I don't desire a relationship with them, to be honest.  I don't want to be going home for the holidays, but my dorm closes during thanksgiving, SO, I guess that's that.  Plus I have one trans friend back in my hometown I'd like to see.  It;s a toxic relationship for sure, but hey-here's to hoping it all works out. 

[Dee Marshall]

I'm not out to my sister, yet. She's my only living close relative. Trying to decide if I should come out to her if I get out there in December. I had intended to come out to her over Thanksgiving, but other issues killed that trip and now I'm feeling more fragile than I had been. What to do, what to do.

[adrian]

I just dread Christmas. I'm not out to my family and the situation with my husband is ... difficult. So not only do I have to pretend I am someone who I'm not, I also have to pretend my marriage is doing great. I wish I could just pack my stuff and bail...

Arrghh!

[ImagineKate]

My mom is in Florida and my dad is too. I don't go visit them for the holidays most years, besides my wife and my mom are like oil and water.

My wife, I have no idea. My kids? They'll all try to pile on top of me because daddy is the best place to sit.

[Leila]

I'm not out to either of my parents. Neither have seen me since my changes due to HRT, so I am expecting some cutting personal comments from both of them. My mother likes nothing better than to critic the physical appearance of others. Then there's my father who kind of mixes gender identity and sexual orientation in his mind and therefore I would be homosexual (notwithstanding the fact of course that my SO is female) because of that and I'd never hear the end of his homophobia.

I have to fly out to meet them. So if it all goes to pot with family feud levels set at DEFCON 1, I'll be packing my bags for a cheap hotel followed by a very expensive last minute long haul one-way ticket home. Sadly I'll be dragging my SO with me, so I might end up buying two tickets or leaving her to face the music in my absence.