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what are the most important things about being trans for you?

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Satinjoy

November 10, 2014, 06:50:40 AM
Curious what the most important things are to you about being trans.

I wish it was helping others for me.. but I am too selfish about that.  That is a huge part though.  Here is mine:

Getting my body fixed, seeing a woman in the mirror, totally, with the body shape I desperately must have.
Feeling good about being trans.
Learning to stand up for myself.
My priceless, wonderful TS and Androgyne friends.
The end of feeling alone and different (big one)
Not losing my faith.
Keeping my family intact and healthy.
Sleeping in my wifes arms.
And fantastic, satisfying sex, although it is solo flight of necessity.

Those are a few for me.  Which is most important?  Good luck with that.  I have no idea.  They all are hugely important.

So, what are the things you need most or are the most important to you in this trans walk of yours?

Blessings

Satinjoy
Morpheus: This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the red pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the little blue pills - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes

Sh'e took the little blue ones.
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Mark3

#1
November 10, 2014, 07:31:14 AM
 I may add more later, this is just a first thought..

Something really important to me, maybe most important, is just the knowing what I am now. That I'm "Something", instead of just another unhappy head in the crowd feeling out of place and personally lost. I love going places now, and just whispering to myself its okay, I'm trans, I can look at those clothes, I can look at things, other people, and do things now I was always very embarrassed to do before.. Its definitely a freedom I have now, all because of what I've learned, the experiences I've read you all have and share, and just knowledge and understanding, its such a powerful life changing thing..
"The soul is beyond male and female as it is beyond life and death."
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suzifrommd

#2
November 10, 2014, 07:53:22 AM
Top priority was being seen as a female. I hoped that meant passing (and most of the time I do).

Second priority was a female body.

Third priority, is building a life as a woman. Right now that seems a really high mountain.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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Pikachu

#3
November 10, 2014, 08:40:21 AM
Being free of all the societal constraints to my personality. This has by far been the biggest thing for me. Finally finding a way not to be scared to death to move in a certain way, to be animated, to wear what I want, to wear what colours I want. I've broken down most of these walls now, but there was a time when they felt impossibly strong. It used to make me feel so powerless. My mannerisms have changed and I'm so outgoing and bubbly now, whereas before I was this stoic, unfeeling shell of a person, repressing every aspect of myself. Couldn't let anyone ever see the girl inside. I didn't even feel safe being myself when I was alone. I'm so glad that's changed.
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Taka

#4
November 10, 2014, 09:34:43 AM
allowing myself to be.
meeting other people as myself.
to stop lying when there is no real need.
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cathyrains

#5
November 11, 2014, 09:10:53 AM
Honesty with myself. Sometimes it's painful but it's hugely empowering. I spent too many years telling myself lies and letting ugly emotions rule my conscious mind.
Exceptions to the norm do not constitute a spectrum.
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Edge

#6
November 11, 2014, 01:52:48 PM
Being able to see myself when I look in the mirror.
Feeling comfortable with my body.
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Natalie

#7
November 11, 2014, 02:28:28 PM
I don't really care about being a transsexual primate. I come and socialize with this social minority simply to talk about what I don't want to talk about with non-transsexual people.
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Dee Marshall

#8
November 11, 2014, 04:37:18 PM
For me, the most important thing is surviving. I'm not sure I would have if I hadn't realized. That trumps everything.
April 22, 2015, the day of my first face to face pass in gender neutral clothes and no makeup. It may be months to the next one, but I'm good with that!

Being transgender is just a phase. It hardly ever starts before conception and always ends promptly at death.

They say the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. I say, climb aboard!
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Mark3

#9
November 17, 2014, 08:09:32 AM
One of the best things about being trans is susans place.
Being here always makes me smile and chuckle, and gives me reason to go on..
Where else am I going to read Apologies made for Apologizing, and topics locked that are about locked topics.? 

I love it.!  ;)
"The soul is beyond male and female as it is beyond life and death."
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Shantel

#10
November 17, 2014, 02:01:18 PM
Quote from: Mark3 on November 17, 2014, 08:09:32 AM
One of the best things about being trans is susans place.
Being here always makes me smile and chuckle, and gives me reason to go on..
Where else am I going to read Apologies made for Apologizing, and topics locked that are about locked topics.? 

I love it.!  ;)

One has to maintain their sense of humor for sure!  :D
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Danielle Emmalee

#11
November 17, 2014, 02:04:37 PM
Quote from: Pikachu on November 10, 2014, 08:40:21 AM
Being free of all the societal constraints to my personality. This has by far been the biggest thing for me. Finally finding a way not to be scared to death to move in a certain way, to be animated, to wear what I want, to wear what colours I want. I've broken down most of these walls now, but there was a time when they felt impossibly strong. It used to make me feel so powerless. My mannerisms have changed and I'm so outgoing and bubbly now, whereas before I was this stoic, unfeeling shell of a person, repressing every aspect of myself. Couldn't let anyone ever see the girl inside. I didn't even feel safe being myself when I was alone. I'm so glad that's changed.
Im with you on this one hun.
Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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Tessa James

#13
November 17, 2014, 02:19:59 PM
Being honest and living my life freely as myself.  I didn't realize how much weight and effort I was putting in to maintaining the facade of a man that was not real.  To paraphrase another sister here; Transitioning is a gift we give ourselves.
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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JulieBlair

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November 17, 2014, 02:39:35 PM Last Edit: November 17, 2014, 04:58:43 PM by JulieBlair
Quote from: Mark3 on November 17, 2014, 08:09:32 AM
One of the best things about being trans is susans place.
Being here always makes me smile and chuckle, and gives me reason to go on..
Where else am I going to read Apologies made for Apologizing, and topics locked that are about locked topics.? 

I love it.!  ;)

Mark, you are sick - keep it up.  >:-)

Knowing that I am loved for who I am - rather than what I do.  The unconditional embrace I have found in the transgender community, spans continents, generations, and personal realities.  That is what makes the community special and keeps me here.

Julie
I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.  :D
Full Time 18 June 2014
Esprit can be found at http://espritconf.com/
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Kendall

#15
December 05, 2014, 09:46:41 PM
The best thing about being trans, which according to the Susan's wiki is short for transgender, which still on this wikisite is inclusive of my gender identity (I checked before typing this reply, the wiki) is finding others that don't fit into the binary gender polarity. I always felt pressure of conformity before finding others that don't quite fit in.

While I might not find the closeness of being similar, I find a strange closeness in being different. When all the rules, conformity, expectations go out the upstairs window, what's discovered is strangely finding mutually different people relaxes, calms, and releases the bitterness, anger, awkwardness, and hurt feelings.

Humor and light-hearted wit is allowed to surface, creativity emerges, and a stronger honor among misfits is felt.

That feeling of marginalized unity in difference is something worth living for.
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