First, before the admins pounce on us for getting off-topic this discussion might be better suited for general discussion instead of in FFS surgery area.
You are spot on. The media coverage of Jenner insults everyone one of us who transitioned in the "dark ages". While I can commiserate with Caitlyn Jenner on her trials and tribulations the media has made it sound like there is only one way to transition.
I'm 56, transitioned over 30 years ago. My gender dysphoria was I knew I was a woman and I hated my male genitalia. I was on HRT until GRS, then stopped. For the first 20 years I looked okay, was considered a handsome woman and was even getting mistaken for one of the local D1 women's college players @ 43. However I've spents LOTS of time outdoors, playing sports and working on our farm. The sun takes it's toll on everyone in the US southwest.
Now I am at the point where I have consulted with several FFS surgeons, mostly because my vanity has kicked in and I want to look better than where I am right now. When I read Lynn Conway's visits for FFS, face lift, laser skin resurfacing I so identified with I've been researching and saving up for over 12 years.
Not every cis woman is drop dead gorgeous, it is all genetics.
g.day
Quote from: Lady Smith on June 06, 2015, 02:49:13 AM
Me and my face have been together a long time so even though the genetics fairy was digging down in the plain faced sack for me when I was conceived I wouldn't want to have it surgically changed even if I did have the money to spend on FFS. I'm 61, after 23 years of HRT my skin is good and I have no facial hair. If I look at a photo of my Dad that was taken just before he died at 58 I can see the family resemblance, but I certainly don't look like him with regard to having coarser deeply lined skin, evidence of a well established beard even though in the photo Dad is clean shaven and I also don't have a thinning and receding hairline. I will freely admit I don't have the finer facial structure that my 63 year old sister has, but that is just the way the genetics dice rolled.
The big advantage of being 61 is that I'm mostly invisible as far as society is concerned which suits me just fine, but it does worry me that younger TG folk are going to look at the ever lengthening list of expensive 'essential' surgeries which are being presented in the media as necessary for transition, become severely depressed and jump off the nearest bridge because they think they will never be able to 'pass'.
When I made my transition all me and my sisters had to worry about was hormones and the 'op'. Some wanted a boob job, but not everyone did back then. Despite the hated, prejudice and abuse from the usual quarters life was a whole lot simpler and we just got on with it.