am i obligated to tell my future husband im transgender?

[Cee Myk]

We are all different and ultimately it is your decision. Personally, I'm up front about who I am, even though I don't have to announce and introduce myself to everyone as being transgender female. So you don't have to tell anyone anything unless you want to start creating mutual trust between each other and loved ones. That's just my opinion and great to hear you have a nice guy in your life. Peace.

[KatelynRain]

I think you should tell him (even though you don't have to), for your own sanity.  The reason being that, if he truly loves you, it won't mean anything to him.  You're still the same person you always were - and I think that he will see that. 

However, if you hide this from him, there will always be a deep seated fear for the rest of your life that he will find out and react horribly.  And the longer you wait, the harder it will be to tell him. 

I think it would be good for your sanity to get that out of the way, so that your fears don't get in the way of your relationship. 

[Susan522]

I know a perfectly passable girl who's male partner of ten years never was told by her. He found out, end of relationship.

Yes. That is a real risk.

I think you should tell him (even though you don't have to), for your own sanity.  The reason being that, if he truly loves you, it won't mean anything to him.  You're still the same person you always were - and I think that he will see that. 

However, if you hide this from him, there will always be a deep seated fear for the rest of your life that he will find out and react horribly.  And the longer you wait, the harder it will be to tell him. 

I think it would be good for your sanity to get that out of the way, so that your fears don't get in the way of your relationship. 

I agree.

[Newgirl Dani]

I realize this has been stated by many but who really knows at what point the balance tips sooo....  Tell him only if you believe your relatiionship should be based on honesty.   Dani

[sam79]

*** massive hug ***

  There are some good guys out there.

[stephaniec]

congrats

[ImagineKate]

That's really awesome Jaz!

[TSJasmine]

Awww I'm so happy for you! Congrats!