Forgot I meant to post pictures as the important days passed...
Well, on Thanksgiving I...honestly forgot what I wore. But it wasn't much different from my everyday wear since I couldn't think of anything in time, which was kind of depressing.
On Second Thanksgiving (with the inlaws), I wore men's black jeans with zippers on the legs, a black women's dress shirt (with a little bit of character, not very formal), and a pinstripe tie, also a women's item. I was going for a somewhat rivethead/punk look, but my husband just thought my top half didn't match the bottom half. Otherwise it was pretty androgynous, I'd say, and nobody batted an eye. However, my openly transphobic mother in law was absent, so who knows what she would have said. I was sort of looking forward to her reaction. Oh well.