what was going through his head?

[Wild Flower]

 This guy said, "im going to the store want to come" I agreed then we walk outside he giggle about farting but I didnt respond. Then he talk about how he hated someone in his past and was just upset. Then he told me they view him as a bi.....ch. Then he told me about how others hated him... and I was like i wouldnt know i dont gossip. He pretty much open to me in less than 10 minutes.. like we were best friends.

It was strange but he was also patronizing in his way... since he ask me a question then wanted to give me a high 5 when i told him.

[Samantha_Marie]

Umm, normally when a guy does this with me I let him know I have a girlfriend but I'm flattered.

*edit*this isn't a guarantee but....

Thought I'd add more, sounds to me like he's interested maybe. Saying people think he's Bi is a hint that he's not against it and is even typically an easy way to mention bi tendencies or at least a bi-curious nature. High-fiving when you give an answer they like is a flirtatious habit guys do with girls, nothing abnormal or patronizing about that typically either. Asking you to go shopping is a way to spend time together and get your opinion on what to wear, so he'll be in something you like(if it was clothes shopping, if not disregard).

Sounds like he's opening up to you and possibly seeing if you're interested. Feel it out, if you're interested maybe ask him to go do something like a hike or a walk in the park. But yea, sounds like a suitor to me!

[Wild Flower]

Kind of clothes shopping but work related. he didnt have to invite me but i guess he figure i needed to do it.  So we walk there to the store. Although he never left my side the whole time... aand when i check out he check out too.

The first week I met him... he offer me to try food from his plate *in front of my boss* and when he talks about the new people at work he says my name first. He likes me but im not sure if its romantic or really just platonic.

I think that would be a big indicator they thought he was a bi×××ch. Just the courage to tell me... we only talk a few times and he just open up with secrets.  He told me everyone at work oesnt really like him...

Hes nice but hes leaving in January... which means he needs to be more direct... although i think the ball is in my court. Im going to a concert with him tomorrow (in a group). I like him... hes really good looking too but i cant let that get in the way.

....
And the first time we talk he thought i was 19  (he at least 25 but no older than 26).  Although its just a number but psychological he thinks im a lot younger than him. 

[Samantha_Marie]

All's I'll say is, You get it girl!!!111!!

[Wild Flower]

All's I'll say is, You get it girl!!!111!!

Yeah I have to see his other behaviors towards others. He obviously like me. Yet.... I never push myself onto guys...

Thank you.

[Wild Flower]

Ehhhg... today we chat and he blab about Kim Kardashian being sexy ((out of nowhere)) and then later I found out he has a wife. Hes not into me like I thought but he kept coming up to me at the concert... and he was watching me a lot. He was nice but I think hes always going to be a friend which saddens me because I did like him.  He probably feels protective over me but its purely platonic... he tells me things he shouldnt but he does.. but i read too much into him.


I think the way he likes me is more like a best friend... but hes protective. Its not the first time I confuse a guys protectiveness with attraction... but I evoke it through him without realizing. I made him into putty because i accepted him when no one else has and he is weak for that.

[Wild Flower]

Egg... im more confuse lol. I look up the Kim pics then I suddenly realize she resemble me... like thats me if I was a female. I thought I look more like Sophia Loren but Kim face resemble mine even more. (I look like the dark skin guy in One Direction)

Im going to say hes attracted to me because I look like what he would date in male form. I saw his wife in a pic ... yet he doesnt talk about her... yet he doesnt seem faithful because of him talking about Kim.

He will never go as far as ask me out. I know that. Its going to be a game of flirtation then thats it

[TSJasmine]

Okay it sounds like you like him & maybe you need to stay a few steps back xD I've been in situations where guys with girlfriends have been flirting with me & doing all sorts of cute ->-bleeped-<- but then I have to remember that they have a different girl at home that they probably are making feel the same way I am & she doesn't even know he's off with a tgirl flirting to the max. If he's taken, just stay away. I had to teach myself that the hard way on a few different occasions $: You'll save yourself the heart ache later. Btw, just cause a guy says a celebrity is hot doesn't mean anything & I don't think it's a proper judgement of faith. Try not to look into it so much lol

[Wild Flower]

Im staying away but I am just trying to figure if hes flirting or not. (When i made this thread i didnt know he had a wife/gf...he didnt tell me. I found out through observation). I like him because i thought he was flirting with me... really i didnt had an initial attraction towards him.

Yet the Kim Kardashian took me off guard because he was like getting all hot and bother about it with oils and lotions.  I was like nooo... hes straight... then im thinking in my head about kim kardashian... he doesnt talk her at work.

And he always happy when im around yet when hes with the team hes all serious and slightly piss.

I like him but he will never be mine. I have to let this go...

[TSJasmine]

Im staying away but I am just trying to figure if hes flirting or not. (When i made this thread i didnt know he had a wife/gf...he didnt tell me. I found out through observation).

Yet the Kim Kardashian took me off guard because he was like getting all hot and bother about it with oils and lotions.

And he always happy when im around yet when hes with the unit hes all serious and slightly piss.

Maybe he was flirting? One thing I've come to know is that some of the least expecting people have homosexual tendencies. Plus, you said you're visibly feminine. He obviously likes girls & guys & you're a super girly guy transitioning to a woman (known to him or not). You may just give off a female vibe & he may be attracted to that. :p

[Samantha_Marie]

Ok, if he's got a wife/gf/SO, it's time to turn around and walk away.

Don't do it, don't do it, don't do it.

Even if he does like you, turn around and walk away. It's -not- worth it.

Trust me on this.

[Wild Flower]

Maybe he was flirting? One thing I've come to know is that some of the least expecting people have homosexual tendencies. Plus, you said you're visibly feminine. He obviously likes girls & guys & you're a super girly guy transitioning to a woman (known to him or not). You may just give off a female vibe & he may be attracted to that. :p

Dur.

I think I do come across fem with him but thats because i talk to him like a mother does when shes trying to fix problems. He complains about crap and ill be there listening.  He drop everything just to help me... and i felt good he didnt hide his friendship with me at the concert. He initially wanted to sit by me but we had to change seats.

It killed the vibe since we had an annoying coworker making small chat.

[Wild Flower]

Ok, if he's got a wife/gf/SO, it's time to turn around and walk away.

Don't do it, don't do it, don't do it.

Even if he does like you, turn around and walk away. It's -not- worth it.

Trust me on this.

True. I am.

[TSJasmine]

I meeeaaannn, you COULD always pull a whore move & just do it. If I really liked him I can't say I wouldn't but it's definitely not a good idea gurlll.

[Wild Flower]

I meeeaaannn, you COULD always pull a whore move & just do it. If I really liked him I can't say I wouldn't but it's definitely not a good idea gurlll.

Lol no. I work with him not a good idea at all. I think Im an outlet for his emotions and he likes me but i never gave him ANy reason i could be into him.

I may like him but he has a someone else. I wouldnt do that.

He has me making me feel like Ariel.  Its pretty pathetic. Hes 6'5 at least and Im 5'6. (This is actually why i have i avoided him at first because talking to him was odd) The females in the office are actually bigger or uglier than me ( or just way older). One is pretty but shes out of his league... and shes taller than what he likes.  But he doesnt like any of the females at work... doesnt like anyone pretty much ... like he told me "he hates me. She hates me. They hate me.... because im such a jerk" hes really rude to people. But with me hes sweet and kind.

[Wild Flower]

Update.

I lost total interest of him. . I got to thinking he goes home daily to someone and I was a foolish in thinking he could be something. He maybe flirting but thats on him. I wont flirt with him or give him much thought. But hes attracted to me. SUch shame.

[Wild Flower]

Ahh... I saw him at breakfast at a public place this morning he invited me over.... I didnt see a significant other. We made small chat but I was like out of it and he was giggling about me and the small things i did. But i was the first to leave because i felt like my crush has grown too much.

It was double damn because he saw me at my worst... literally no shower.. look like a hot mess.  But he was happy to see me.. 

It was spooky. I just left him giggling though.

[Wild Flower]

Today. It was odd. He was very friendly towards me in the morning then he tap his hand on my shoulder as if he was concern about me when i said i was skipping lunch. He was still nice throughout the day but he was stress at one point... and he was like "what the fu...k are you doing?" Then he resume his niceness and he was like "now you have me mess up". When he was putting a combination in... then he was all secretive about the number. Its not a big deal.

I know the number... my main manager told me. I saw him treat me nicer than everyone else and then uses cussed words when I wasnt doing anything but my job. Im not too sensitive but it makes me think.

He didnt say anything when i left work. But hes hating his job right now and it was like he was putting his anger in me.

The weirdest thing he listens to every word I say and when this lady came up to me he was listening to our conversation and laugh about it as if hes enjoying my humiliation. But he read it like cute.