Ex Wife told me my hair was so pretty

[Freya]

I had another positive experience today, when my ex-wife dropped by to pick up our younger daughter and said, "wow your hair is so pretty, can I look at it?" She then proceeded to run her hands through it, then scolded me about split ends.  Fortunately they're not bad, it's just time to get a trim.

This was surprising, since she and I are not close except for the fact that we have daughters together, so we have gotten along since we separated 15 years ago, when our daughters were 1 and 4.

I've grown my hair out over the past 3 years or so and it is down past the middle of my back.  I went gray young, but am fortunate to have a very full thick head of hair with minimal receding hairline.  It's hard to define mine as single hair color, it's mostly silver and chocolate brown mixed in with an occasional gold strand.  I didn't know about the gold until recently when my older daughter was putting it into a braid and was showing it to her sorority sister, that was watching.

It feels really nice to have any feature that can be recognized as pretty.  I'll always suffer from having a Polynesian/Viking heritage sized frame.  I'm not particularly tall at 5' 11", but I have a 20" neck, 52" hips, and 17" biceps.  In the past two years of HRT I have lost 10lbs of lean body mass, but I'd need to drop more than 30lbs of lean body mass for my ideal body weight to be under 200lbs.  I have many years of Football, martial arts, ditch digging, and pipe fitting, that put on too much muscle mass for me to be happy with myself.  It's kind of a shame to have all that and not want it at all.  Hopefully I will see some significant drop from a combination of fat loss and HRT, but it's so hard to see from where I am now.

Freya

[MelissaAnn]

It's always great to have some validation especially from an ex. I to have a bit of weight to get down, but I'm well on my way as I have lost 37 pounds in the last two months. Too many years of feeding my emotions. Best of luck to you, honey.

[Lyric]

Interesting. I'm still trying to figure out how the Vikings met the Polynesians, but whatever. I've certainly seen a lot people of those two separate lineages who have great hair, so I guess you've got that going for you.

I used to have a pretty physical job and ate out a lot and had much more muscle and fat than I do now. I lost it mainly by eating almost only food I do at home, which is super low in fat and not too high in proteins, either. I'm 5'11", too, and once weighed over 160, but now can't show more than 127-128. I doubt if you could make it that thin with your frame, but you could certainly loose quite a bit. The key is not to starve yourself, but to eat the right foods and eat them often. And, of course, get lots of calorie-burning aerobic exercise, such as walking. I try to walk at least 5-10 miles every couple of days, anyway.

[Freya]

Thanks everyone

This past year I have lost 64lbs through diet and exercise.  I expect I'll lose enough in the next year to get down to whatever my  ideal healthy weight is.

I did just see an amazing woman in the grocery store today that I had seen maybe a year before.  She was very large in terms of proportion, but beautiful and not at all overweight.  She was the definition of Amazonian and "big boned," but still very well proportioned.  I believe she was even taller than me, certainly so with her heels on.  I am so glad I saw her again...

It is in these moments that I can see and accept the light at the end of the tunnel as the possible dream.

Freya

[Freya]

Interesting. I'm still trying to figure out how the Vikings met the Polynesians, but whatever.

That's a story where truth is greater than fiction!  It starts with my Irish/Hawaiian father that grew up working for the San Francisco mob... But that's a story I'll hold onto for now 
My mother is pure Scandinavian.

Freya

[Lyric]

I did just see an amazing woman in the grocery store today that I had seen maybe a year before.  She was very large in terms of proportion, but beautiful and not at all overweight.  She was the definition of Amazonian and "big boned," but still very well proportioned.  I believe she was even taller than me, certainly so with her heels on.

She sounds like one of those Robert Crumb-like women. A lot of guys really have a thing chicks like that.