Transgender woman dies suddenly, presented at funeral in open casket as a man

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Steve Rothaus, Miami Herald
November 21, 2014

Jennifer Gable, an Idaho customer service coordinator for Wells Fargo, died suddenly Oct. 9 on the job at age 32. An aneurysm, according to stunned friends.

Just as shocking, they say, when they went to Gable's funeral in Twin Falls, Idaho, and saw her in an open casket — hair cut short, dressed in a suit and presented as a man.

"I am disgusted," Stacy Dee Hudson posted on Facebook. "A great and dear friend's mom went to the funeral today. It was not closed casket. They cut her hair, suit on. How can they bury her as geoff when she legally changed her name. So very sad. Jen you will be missed and people who know you know that you are at peace."

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Stabler says Gable's death "stresses the importance of having a will."

"She had done what she needed to do legally to be seen as her authentic self. Her father erased her identity either though ignorance or arrogance," Stabler said. "But who knows what the parent was going through?"

Read more here: http://www.miamiherald.com/news/local/community/gay-south-florida/article4055600.html

[PinkCloud]

Sounds like some desperate parents resisting change.

Maybe it is a good idea to write a will while still alive, and write in it how you want to be dressed, before the earthlings will decide for you. Sad story though...

[gennee]

Pretty sad if you ask me. To me, Jennifer's parents really did not show any respect for their transgender daughter as the person she really was.

[AngieFerg]

My parents will and would do the exact same thing to me. This is a worry that I have had. I plan to make arrangements where that will not be possible for me. Although I have changed things legally I know my deeply ashamed parents would have me buried as a man. This is sad to see.

[Beverly]

I am f***** furious. It is beyond sick.

What is it with religious people? Whatever happened to the principles of love and respect that they are supposed to embrace?

Religion should be reclassified as anti-social behaviour. Fundamentalist religion should have an entry in the DSM under "Mental disease - desire to inflict harm on others".

The sooner humanity grows out of the infantile need for a "Daddy in the sky" the happier we will all be.

[MelissaAnn]

This is absolutely horrifying. It bothers me that the parents, especially the father did not have enough respect for her to lay her to rest as she was. He definitely has issues and cannot accept the fact that he had a daughter, instead of a son. But what bothers me more is what was said on the death certificate as the death certificate says Geoff(a.k.a. Jennifer) is way out of line to me because she had her name legally changed and the corner should of listed it as such. In my opinion, this is outrageous in the corner should be fired.

[ImagineKate]

I saw this on Laverne Cox's Facebook. Makes me sick to my stomach. This should be a hate crime.

Girls and guys, write in your will right now your final wishes. In fact write a living will too in case you are ever hospitalized and terminally ill. Get a good attorney. Disinherit people who don't respect your wishes.

[Paige]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/11/24/jennifer-gable-transgender_n_6212900.html

This quote from comment section of this article says it all. 

"Unfortunately, this is a sad reminder for all LGBTQ people to get a Health Care Power of Attorney and Will to protect your interests and wishes (and your partner's) even if you're healthy."

Beware of the comment section though, there's too much hate.

Take care,
Paige

[suzifrommd]

Another story about this woman was posted in https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,178287.0.html.

[XiaoMei]

I read a few of the comments. It's like people can't tell between "Gender" and "Sex". We need more education in this world...


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[Jessica Merriman]

I already have legal paperwork signed stating I will be buried under my transition name and with female presentation. No one can alter it now or violate the law and pay penalties to a designated charity of my choice. Pre purchasing your funeral and headstone with inscription (no death date of course) based on gender preference is a very smart move if you worry about this as well. 

[Jill F]

I would so haunt everyone who was responsible for that travesty from beyond the grave.

So help me, if I die before I get SRS, I am going to need it done post-mortem.  I am not to be buried with that thing.

[XiaoMei]

I always thought about doing something to have my own funeral paid for with my money. But I never considered that my wishes could be twisted. When I get the change I'd like to be buried as a girl/woman, not a "man".


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[Wynternight]

Hi all, I merged the two threads on this sad story together.

[TheQuestion]

That's pretty sick.  I was thinking of killing myself a few months back and I'd told a few relatives that I wanted to be cremated.  I haven't even started HRT and even I don't want to be buried in a suit.  This is truly disturbing...

[Devlyn]

Without a will, all decisions are going to be made by someone else. What you said, what you wanted, what you liked to be called, all become moot points if you haven't stated your wishes on a legally binding document.

[kira21 ♡♡♡]

I know my parents would be the same.  I think about my death quite frequently,  for obvious reasons,  and I wouldn't even want my parents there. Time to write a will I suppose!

[m1anderson]

The article stated that she was raised by her maternal Grandparents; obviously not accepting. Raise up and heed the wisdom that your wishes MUST be followed by creating a legal document stating your needs.

[Beth Andrea]

So sad. RIP Jen.

[TheDane]

This just made me so sad. One of my biggest fears is, how will people remember me? (Right after, will people remember me?) So this is just so sad.