Difficulties with sports

[Pizzaparty78]

Hello everyone, so I'm in high school and I decided to go out for the Junior Varsity basketball team. I'm not out to anyone but my family, but I did just get my hair cut short, so I either look like a lesbian or a guy.

Anyways, Im pretty sure Im making the team, but I already feel out of place. I stopped playing basketball for a while in middle school because I didnt like playing with all girls, until 7th grade, then I stopped again. The rest of the girls get along well already, and gossip out boys and such, while Im just by myself. Dont get me wrong, its not like I refuse to talk with them or anything. I even know a few of them, I try to act as friendly ad possible, yet girls on teams Ive been on just never seem to want to talk to me much. Ever. I know its early on and all, but this is how it has always been for me with all girl teams :/. I obviously dont like being seen as a girl and this is hard for me, but yet I reallt want to play.

I want to eventually make it to varsity at some point, I know a bunch of them from my team in middle school (still didnt really belong there either), and I really want to earn a varsity jacket. I really love basketball, but I probably wont have a shot to get on varsity until my senior year, pretty far away, and I want to come out and transition, so idk what to do. I love basketball, just not that I have to be a girl to play (boys teams I would have no shot at) I even had my first therapy appointment tonight but my mom wanted me to go to basketball instead. I cant even get the same therapist because of our insurance, and now a new one probably wont be family with transgender issues.

Sorry if Im ranting/rambling. I needed to gt it off my chest and no one else gets it.

[Bimmer Guy]

Hello everyone, so I'm in high school and I decided to go out for the Junior Varsity basketball team. I'm not out to anyone but my family, but I did just get my hair cut short, so I either look like a lesbian or a guy.

Anyways, Im pretty sure Im making the team, but I already feel out of place. I stopped playing basketball for a while in middle school because I didnt like playing with all girls, until 7th grade, then I stopped again. The rest of the girls get along well already, and gossip out boys and such, while Im just by myself. Dont get me wrong, its not like I refuse to talk with them or anything. I even know a few of them, I try to act as friendly ad possible, yet girls on teams Ive been on just never seem to want to talk to me much. Ever. I know its early on and all, but this is how it has always been for me with all girl teams :/. I obviously dont like being seen as a girl and this is hard for me, but yet I reallt want to play.

I want to eventually make it to varsity at some point, I know a bunch of them from my team in middle school (still didnt really belong there either), and I really want to earn a varsity jacket. I really love basketball, but I probably wont have a shot to get on varsity until my senior year, pretty far away, and I want to come out and transition, so idk what to do. I love basketball, just not that I have to be a girl to play (boys teams I would have no shot at) I even had my first therapy appointment tonight but my mom wanted me to go to basketball instead. I cant even get the same therapist because of our insurance, and now a new one probably wont be family with transgender issues.

Sorry if Im ranting/rambling. I needed to gt it off my chest and no one else gets it.

It sounds like you are in a tough spot.

Know that if you take testosterone they may not let you play on the girl's team.  So, consider that.

[alexclusive]

For now, just keep trying to get along with the girls on your team. Don't worry about being friends with everyone on the team. Start with one or two people and build your way up from there. Maybe start by asking someone if they wanna go 1 on 1 or drill with you after practice.

And is there any way your mom can get you with a gender therapist that will take your insurance?

Lastly, as far as transitioning goes, like someone else said, if you start T you won't be able to play on the girls team however there's a chance you can play on the guys team. Talk to the athletic director or administrator of your school and see if it's possible. I can relate to your situation as an athlete myself. I wanted to play on the boys lacrosse team in middle school and after making a deal with the athletic director, I did. I had to pass a series of fitness tests and play on the girls team in 7th grade then I could play on the guys team in 8th grade. I also did football and wrestling but once I reached high school, I decided to focus on wrestling. After 3 years into transitioning and reaching 1.5 years on T, they have finally allowed me to be in the guy's locker room this year in my last year of high school. 

I'm sure you love basketball and want to compete as long as you can. Whether it's making girls varsity or the guys team, work your ass off and don't give up on pursuing your goals. Also, don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't do something, not even yourself, cause you might actually be surprised.. they might make the accommodations you need during your transition. I hope your school is as understanding as mine has been.

Don't hesitate to PM me for anything!