Natural features that make for a passable transwoman?

[sarah12]

Ok so I know this question must have been asked a MILLION times in the past, and I'm sure most of the comments will be along the lines of "just be yourself" and "its mostly about self confidence". But seriously, does anyone have any real thoughts or opinions they would like to share, shallow or depressing as they may be?

I am 36, single male, a lifelong closet crossdresser with a lifelong burning desire to be a member of the opposite gender. Lately I have been seriously considering taking this yearning to a new level. I now spend almost all of my alone time in dress, practicing mannerisms, and reading up on transsexualism. I am new to this site, and this is my first post and my first go at reaching out.

And of course as I consider transitioning I cannot help but wonder, how effective will HRT be? What desirable or undesirable natural body traits do I possess or not possess? Am I delusional when I look in the mirror and think I look hot? How much of what we see in the mirror is just ours brains feeding us what we want to see?...

I have smallish hands, although square and sturdy in design. I have slender bow-legs which I think are very nice. I am 5'10"and slender with a small frame and wear a ladies 10.5 shoe. I have a small head, slender wrists, slender ankles, small ears, long eyelashes and big pretty eyes.
But my face is angular and my hairline receding by the day. I have pronounced male curvature in my brow and a big jewish nose. I have no hips and slim muscular shoulders. In certain outfits I look really stunning. In others, I look like a hippy boy or effeminate male rocker. Aye aye aye, so confused.

So what natural physical features, in your personal experience, or from knowing other transwomen, seem to lend themselves to passability or "attractiveness"? (Again, sorry if these questions are totally obnoxious or offensive!!!!)

I know I must sound like such a newbie.... If anyone has anything they would like to contribute I would appreciate it! 

[Devlyn]

Hi Sarah, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm the resident Bostonian. Yada yada be yourself, yada yada see a therapist, yada yada we're getting more snow again. That about covers it! Get busy posting and making friends!

Hugs, Devlyn

[April_TO]

Devlyn is so funny

Yes, I would first consult a therapist to consider your options. I could probably speculate that they may put you on low dose HRT to start off and evaluate the results for yourself. I could be mistaken!

Being passable is only a spectrum of transitioning. If you read in another thread/post, passability starts in your head and flows outwards.
Women come in many shapes and sizes so there's no certain way of how someone should look like. Focus on your good features and highlight them and then maybe consider FFS if you think you need it. Hard to gauge when we can't see you love.

Enjoy the journey and good luck!

April

Ok so I know this question must have been asked a MILLION times in the past, and I'm sure most of the comments will be along the lines of "just be yourself" and "its mostly about self confidence". But seriously, does anyone have any real thoughts or opinions they would like to share, shallow or depressing as they may be?

I am 36, single male, a lifelong closet crossdresser with a lifelong burning desire to be a member of the opposite gender. Lately I have been seriously considering taking this yearning to a new level. I now spend almost all of my alone time in dress, practicing mannerisms, and reading up on transsexualism. I am new to this site, and this is my first post and my first go at reaching out.

And of course as I consider transitioning I cannot help but wonder, how effective will HRT be? What desirable or undesirable natural body traits do I possess or not possess? Am I delusional when I look in the mirror and think I look hot? How much of what we see in the mirror is just ours brains feeding us what we want to see?...

I have smallish hands, although square and sturdy in design. I have slender bow-legs which I think are very nice. I am 5'10"and slender with a small frame and wear a ladies 10.5 shoe. I have a small head, slender wrists, slender ankles, small ears, long eyelashes and big pretty eyes.
But my face is angular and my hairline receding by the day. I have pronounced male curvature in my brow and a big jewish nose. I have no hips and slim muscular shoulders. In certain outfits I look really stunning. In others, I look like a hippy boy or effeminate male rocker. Aye aye aye, so confused.

So what natural physical features, in your personal experience, or from knowing other transwomen, seem to lend themselves to passability or "attractiveness"? (Again, sorry if these questions are totally obnoxious or offensive!!!!)

I know I must sound like such a newbie.... If anyone has anything they would like to contribute I would appreciate it! 

[Kellam]

Hey, I'm litteraly in the same boat as you, same age, similar build, same height but I have a piggy Irish nose and wear an 11. I also have fairly big joints, wierd thumbs, big elbows and knees and knobby knuckles. I just reached the point a couple weeks back where I couldn't stand living a lie anymore. I also have a fair amount of hair loss. Definitely start talking to people and reach out to the medical world. Listen too to the folks here, they are full of positivity and good advice. I know that things may not turn out the way I have them in my head but pretending to be a man is no longer an option for me. Love yourself, because you're worth it! It isn't so much about passing as it is about you being happy, when you're happy, others respond in kind. Welcome to Susan's!

I'm still learning all this myself, baby steps...

[Anna++]

I have smallish hands, although square and sturdy in design. I have slender bow-legs which I think are very nice. I am 5'10"and slender with a small frame and wear a ladies 10.5 shoe. I have a small head, slender wrists, slender ankles, small ears, long eyelashes and big pretty eyes.

Believe it or not, but these features are less important than you think!  Nobody will ever stop you on the street, pull out a ruler, and say "I'm confused about your gender, here let me measure you!"

But my face is angular and my hairline receding by the day. I have pronounced male curvature in my brow and a big jewish nose. I have no hips and slim muscular shoulders.

I can promise you that there are cis-women who these same features, the only difference is that they're not constantly worrying over if they pass.  This is where the self confidence part come is, and I know you said you didn't want to hear this but it really is the key to blending in.  People tend to see what they want to see, so if you're feeling confident then they won't give you a second look.  On the other hand, if you're feeling uncertain or insecure then you are going to attract more attention and people will look at you longer.

I know I didn't pass the first several weeks of full time, and I know it's because I was feeling scared and I kept looking around to see how others were reacting.  After several weeks I relaxed and then nobody could tell!

[michelle82]

if we are talking about strictly physcial features focused on the face...

In terms of face, i think forehead,nose, eye area, and facial hair are the biggest gender indicators. Women obviously come in all different shapes and sizes, but for the most part women tend not to have strong brow bossing nor do they have beard shadow.

I don't rule out confidence, because when it comes down to it, we don't live in a bubble, where people are only viewing us in passing. We have to interact with the world and people.