Quote from: PinkCloud on December 08, 2014, 08:01:47 AM
Most cis-woman can't relate to cis-teenage girls. Most teenage cis-girls don't discuss sexual urges of old cis-woman. They COMPLETELY cannot connect with the older cis-woman. So I can't see how this suddenly relates to being trans*? and what is so innate about them, unless it is some shady attempt to "Being more TTT" and I'm not trans anymore and leave the community and my sisters to fend for themselves. Sorry to say, but those who transitioned early (I know two), were my best friends when I transitioned. They did not hide, they even went public from a couple of years of stealth, to help our sisters. Feel free to correct me. 
No, it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with being trans. Generally in the Cleveland trans group I go to, the older transitioners like talking about their kids, their professional life, other people they've met, trying to implore wisdom on the younger set, and other "adult" stuff. Most of the 25-35ish transisitioners are very much among the hipster generation, and thus like talking about video games, movies, nutrition and diets because we're all starting to get fat

, Lord of the Rings, Transformers, the struggles of trying to get our professional lives on track, and our various ideas and artistic ventures. Young adult stuff. And the trans kids are still talking about high school stuff like school, parties, music, friends, dating, what they're doing on vacation, etc.
I do notice a difference, though, in terms of how each group reports that they experienced dysphoria, and specifically what experiences they tend to focus on and talk about, and what they personally believe defines their gender. But yes, there is definitely a lot more to it than that. And honestly even those different focuses might just be the result of a generational gap, or even just because we've all had to endure different durations of society trying to hammer our birth gender into our heads, so therefore we feel differing amounts of a need to somehow prove our gender.
I think the experience of dysphoria very much might be exactly the same regardless of age. But think of the possible impact of our evolving culture... The pressure to conform to a rigid gender binary due to the culture might have made older transitioners more likely to be forced to do things in secret, hence the common "secret crossdressing" narrative and the narratives about having to act stereotypically-masculine pre-transition. I grew up as a child of 60s parents, and in a much more lenient school environment where gender-nonconformity, namely it being totally okay for girls to be athletes, policemen, firemen, and the like, was celebrated by the school, so for me I didn't face the same harsh completely-gender-segregating oppression that older trans people faced, so the defining aspects of my dysphoria were not "secret" things, but rather "open" things, namely being teased by others for my effeminate behavior, and the bodily dysphoria that came along with puberty. This seems to be a more common experience among the 25-35 set. And trans kids today are growing up in a generation where the things you like are even less defined by gender, and now it's even becoming normal for boys to do feminine things, so I think that has a lot to do with it too.
I REALLY hope nobody took my prior post as a "->-bleeped-<-r than thou" post... that was NOT the intent. I wasn't somehow implying that trans kids are "more trans" because their gender seems more incidental to them. It very well might just be because they haven't had to deal with having their gender invalidated as harshly or as long by society as older transitioners have had to put up with.