I want to have a baby with my MTF girlfriend? Help?? :(

[J441]

Hey so my girlfriend and I want to be able to freeze her sperm before she starts to transition. She's 21 and her mom won't let her do it, and says it costs too much. I know she's an adult and she can do it if she wants to, but neither of us have the money. We can't take out a loan because of interest, and it's just too hard.

This is honestly such a huge thing for me, and I want to be able to have kids with her when we get older. I've literally been crying about this for the past few weeks. I know that we can always adopt and stuff, but I think it would be so amazing to have a baby with her, and I really want to do it.

What's the cheapest way we can store her sperm? Where do we go? I don't know what to do.

This is really important to me.
Can someone help??

Thanks so much <3

[Cynobyte]

Start Google speed banks!  Damn, I see you problem.  Hopefully someone has the answer.  good job thinking into the future.  That is very adult of you;)  my son is a year younger and would never think that far ahead sad to say:(  but I bet a sperm bank could save for ya cheap.  Or I hope..  good luck and post findings as you go so maybe we can add to it..

[Wolfy]

http://www.fairfaxcryobank.com/spstorfaq.shtml

You can look here and then compare prices around. It doesn't look like it's that expensive!!

It also looks like you can get reimbursed through insurance. That's the best I can help out.

[J441]

Thanks Wolfy. I just called and left a message. Hopefully they'll get back to me soon.

With the current place I'm looking at, I'll have about $70 a month to spend on myself. So it would help if I had a cheaper option.
Thanks a lot though.

[mrs izzy]

Have you thought about making deposits for $ and use that $ to pay for the private deposit?

[J441]

Mrs. Izzy, what do you mean? Could you explain?

[mrs izzy]

Many banks pay for deposits of donors.

Then as enough made use that $ to pay for a deposit that is for her use later.

[Lostkitten]

Does your girlfriend also want this? I understand it is a serious thing to consider but your girlfriend isn't on these forums and you always ask questions about what is bothering you. Again, I know the possibility to freeze is better (if you got the money for it) but if it doesn't bother her 'that' much, don't make it bigger than it is. If you had met her a few years later then it was even out of the question. This should be her decision.

Also, if she is already on HRT then the chances are big she is already sterile.

[J441]

Yeah she wants this too. It is a really big deal to me though. I really want to have a baby with her in a few years.

She's not on anything yet, so she's not sterile.


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[mac1]

From your posts I assume that you are cis female. If that is the case and you both desire to have a baby then why you do it the natural way before she becomes sterile?

[J441]

Yes I'm a cis female. The reason we don't want to do it the natural way is because she'll be sterile by the time we want to have kids anyway. She's 21, and I'm 19. We're both still finishing college right now and we're way too young to have a baby. I'm just thinking about the future.

We also don't want to put off her transition for any longer than we need to, so we need to sperm bank her sperm.