Wish I could really be my parents daughter

[Makenzie]

I'm 15 and would give it all to be "daddy's little girl" but dread ruining the rapport my dad and I have built when I finally come out.What should I do,I'm lost?Any advice,I honestly need it

[peky]

I'm 15 and would give it all to be "daddy's little girl" but dread ruining the rapport my dad and I have built when I finally come out.What should I do,I'm lost?Any advice,I honestly need it

If your parent are decent openminded folks, then  get together with them, and tell them you need their help, and share the way your feel...

I love my 5 kids... I would not stop loving them for any reason what so ever...

courage

Peky

[peky]

a few truthful tears would help... LOL

[Makenzie]

My dad is too conservative and my relatives hold the belief that trans people are mutilated.I dread it but the dysphoria just gets worse by the day.I don't know if it's hormones or what causing this hell.

[CrissyMarie]

I feel you there Hun.  I wanted to be a daughter my whole life and after I started transition, I did feel more like a daughter then a son and I feel as though even after full transition, I will never been seen nor excepted as a daughter.  Such as life I suppose.  I can't force them into something they don't feel comfortable.  I just turned 31 and I'm quite sure my father never wants to see me ever again.  I live with my mom and she has learned to accept me, and still love me the same, but even still she constantly calls me son.  I just let her have it.  I won't take it away from her because she won't be able to give up knowing she raised a son and now "he" looks and acts like a girl.  Meh, I can understand and respect it I guess.  But even if you come to terms and let yourself out into the open as a female and transition, they may still always see you and treat you as their son.  You can't force them to turn a blind eye on the past and call you a daddy's girl or daughter.  It will be their choice and you should respect them for what ever choice they make just as they are making the choice to accept the changes in you.  Be easy, gently let them become use to your changes.  If you force to many major changes on them they may try to shut down all together.  Just as you transition you need to let them transition with you.  Good luck

[CrissyMarie]

My dad is too conservative and my relatives hold the belief that trans people are mutilated.I dread it but the dysphoria just gets worse by the day.I don't know if it's hormones or what causing this hell.

And yes, it is hormones and how you see yourself.  They are masculinizing you and you can't identify with what's happening.  They need to learn that we were not born this way, nor did we choose to be transgender.  We did choose happiness for ourselves though and not let others keep pushing us into a wrong direction.  We are not mutilated, we are bringing our outer appearance to match how we view ourselves inside, otherwise depression and "worse" take hold and it is to much to bare.  You will find out the hard way if when/if your dysphoria gets stronger and you become older.  I wish I had known what I do now and had gotten to transition in my teens so that male puberty didn't do any changes to me.

[katrinaw]

And yes, it is hormones and how you see yourself.  They are masculinizing you and you can't identify with what's happening.  They need to learn that we were not born this way, nor did we choose to be transgender.  We did choose happiness for ourselves though and not let others keep pushing us into a wrong direction.  We are not mutilated, we are bringing our outer appearance to match how we view ourselves inside, otherwise depression and "worse" take hold and it is to much to bare.  You will find out the hard way if when/if your dysphoria gets stronger and you become older.  I wish I had known what I do now and had gotten to transition in my teens so that male puberty didn't do any changes to me.

Very well said and agreed (especially leaving it too long)

L Katy

[speckyhailey]

If they truly love you, they should be accepting of it, though it may take them longer to come around to this point of view. I'd say to try and make it less about the physical idea of it and more about how much pain and stress it is causing you being how you are at the moment.

[Makenzie]

What do you mean?

[speckyhailey]

Most parents don't want to see their children in pain, it's just sometimes they find it harder to realize that their children are in pain. I think you need to come out soonish. Obviously if possible look for trans groups in your area to give you the support for it and from your parents I'd say expect the best (they are your parents after all) but be prepared for the worst.

[TSJasmine]

Listen, I understand what you're going through. I was in the same position once. Neither of my parents accepted me when I came out but it didn't stop me from being myself. It shouldn't stop you either. Being transgender is one of those things that isn't someone else choice & they have no choice but to accept it. They don't have to be accepting of you, but they have to accept the reality that their son is actually their daughter. They might not like it but you can't let it stop you from living your life happily. Don't ever let anyone control your happiness because they're not the one's who have to live you life. Try to tell them & try to get them on board. If you can manage to stop your hormones by 15 then there's a good chance you'll still be very feminine & passable. Do everything in your power to not let your voice go silenced.

[Ellesmira the Duck]

You're parents can surprise you, I know mine did. Being honest with yourself at such a young age is great, many of us were not that far along at your age. If this is someone you feel is important to you, then you should work up a plan to tell them if you can. You may also want to create a back up plan if they do not take it well, if you have any other relatives or friends you can contact, it may be best to talk to them first so you have an ally going into this. Even if you don't need them, it will likely help put your mind at ease to know you have a way out just in case. I wish you the best of luck.