Transition Addiction

[Joelene9]

I wonder what you all think about this topic.

It seems to me, transition itself can be addictive.

Boobs are cool and all. I grope myself like 437 times an hour. But the rest of the time,  mere seconds really, they are just there.

I dunno, this is a bit of a ramble but I thought I would post it to see if anybody had thoughts on the topic.

Aloha,
Tori

Boobs are cool! In my case I was groping more in the decades before HRT to try to get the damn things to grow. Stayed as flat as a board! No much of that after starting HRT and I did a self-exam two nights ago because I didn't do so for 8 months! I like my 40 B's.

Joelene

[Sincerely Tegan]

I wonder what you all think about this topic.

It seems to me, transition itself can be addictive.

Even before HRT, little things could help temporarily lift my dysphoria. Dressing up, coming out to friends and family... etc. These effects were always temporary. They did encourage me to do more.

Then HRT and coming out to the world, growing boobs and having fat store in new and squishy places, clothes, shoes, practicing presentation and all kinds of other stuff.

Of course, surgery can be a next step, and there are so many to choose from.

Transition is frightening and thrilling, and yet so many of us work to get to the other side. To put transition behind us.

And then, boring, depressing life is on the other side, just this time we are wearing bras and panties. Hopefully we have shed our dysphoric past.

I imagine there is a bit of a let down for some people once the excitement is all over and the new car smell has faded.

Boobs are cool and all. I grope myself like 437 times an hour. But the rest of the time,  mere seconds really, they are just there.

I dunno, this is a bit of a ramble but I thought I would post it to see if anybody had thoughts on the topic.

Aloha,
Tori

Tori,

I think the way to avoid transition addiction is to keep a balanced life filled with other hobbies and interests. If transition is only one of many goals, then crossing it off your list will feel like the accomplishment it is rather than some sort of loss.

If transitioning begins taking over somebody's life, probably the thing to do would be to create a bucket list of sorts. And it probably shouldn't look like this:

– Bucket
– Bucket
– Bucket

If it looks like that, you're doing it wrong.

[Tori]

So, not just a list of buckets then?

Got it.

[Cindy]

I think this is important as a topic. My (non-professional) opinion is that a lot of post-op depression is a result of "I've done everything and I'm still not happy" feelings. Transitioning doesn't solve the problems many of us carry, it doesn't pay the bills, it doesn't bring the next meal, it doesn't cure social anxiety or anything else you are carrying.

These things have to be dealt with during our transition, yes in my case my therapist has helped heaps with the baggage I carry, or carried, but I have tried to work on those issues knowing that if I am to be a happy woman I need to approach my gender dysphoria in a holistic sense. If I don't I will be a post trans woman with PTSD, I need to deal with the PTSD separately and seriously to be the woman I am and the woman I am going to be for the rest of my life.

[katrinaw]

  Boobs are cool! In my case I was groping more in the decades before HRT to try to get the damn things to grow. Stayed as flat as a board! No much of that after starting HRT and I did a self-exam two nights ago because I didn't do so for 8 months! I like my 40 B's.

Joelene

With you on that one!
Agreed that I do check for signs of unwanted lumps...

History  I love my boobs too, so much better than years ago of using sticky tape to try and raise the flesh, or worse when I used to grab a bra and push socks or nylons into them 

Ooh my how times have changed for the better.

L Katy

[transtastic]

Addicted to becoming yourself seems to be a good thing to me.

[Clhoe G]

Lol yeah I'm totally addicted , I look forward to my next shot like a junky 

*Snifffff scratch scratch* hey! Got any E, E anyone?  *scratch scratch* 

[stephaniec]

showering with boobs

[ChrissyChips]

I'll still be a grumpy, anti-social, sarcastic sod after transition...just with a better wardrobe.

And shower companions.

[katiej]

I'd like to have a:

-- Blue 5 gallon bucket
-- white 5 gallon bucket
-- 1 gallon bucket (any color)


Like that?



I've always heard that post transition most people discover they have a huge transition-shaped hole in their life.  And it makes sense.  It's like having a really important hobby that's no longer necessary...so what do I do now?

[Jill F]

I've always heard that post transition most people discover they have a huge transition-shaped hole in their life.  And it makes sense.  It's like having a really important hobby that's no longer necessary...so what do I do now?

Bass solo?

[stephaniec]

solve one of the unsolved math problems or what colors are representative in other dimensions or does gender exist outside of our own space time

[Sincerely Tegan]

There's always, you know, curing cancer.

Ooh, or macrame!

[Wynternight]

Stop making me reply! My hands have better things to do! 

This thread has made me fall in love with you.

Take me, I'm yours!!

[stephaniec]

This thread has made me fall in love with you.

Take me, I'm yours!!

[katiej]

Bass solo?

It's funny.  I've always loved girl bass players.  Now I am one!

There's always, you know, curing cancer.

Ooh, or macrame!

Definitely macrame!

[Wynternight]

**perk** Handcuffs?

Ok, I'll behave!!

[katrinaw]

I agree with Cindy here, and love the delightful banter 

There is certainly a deeper thrill than just to transition and then what... I was thinking about that myself, its about perfection... I stood in front of my mirror and started lifting various parts of my face, the result was astounding (not that I have not done that before  ).

Its not about passing or being accepted, I think its about perfection, never having to doubt about how you look, its also about the commanding role you hold in your appearance... like if I look absolutely fantastic, every one will want to be me or be close to me...

Maybe I am a little off centre here, but, In my mind I have made a wishful bucket list... the obvious first:

Facial Hair (Laser/Electrolysis)..must
Voice therapeutics... voice training - minimally a must
Thorax reduction (adam's apple)... still there, and therefore a must

- Now here's where the order get cloudy

Leg and arm lasering
Yeson Voice pitch surgery
Nose Bridge reduction
Wrinkle removal (upper and lower lip, triggered by earlier years of smoking)
Face lift
SRS/GRS
Get off drugs ? (use E implant)
Sky's the limit perfecting the rest like buttock implants, boobs etc, etc, etc....

Of course at my age I may no longer be on this earth to fulfil allor even enjoy it all....

Funnily I was talking with my Dermatologist the other day, asking about facial laser treatment and reduction of wrinkles, sun damage etc.... I honestly said; "that years ago I said I would get old gracefully" then as it transpires 'HELL NO', I am not and do not want to get old gracefully, now whether I can afford perfection or not is another thing, and that's where moderation will come in, I suspect I will not go down GRS/SRS...unless of course I look knockout in the future and I become a cougar 

I think that most of us want to look great, it becomes a question on what is 'my acceptance' criteria... of course striving for perfection also becomes a drug in its self and..... but there is nothing wrong with wanting to look your best, just beware of the horror stories 

Just the ramblings of.... my mind

L Katy 

[Wynternight]

Kind of in line with this I guess but does anyone else walk around kind of smiling in that "I know something you don't know" kind of way?

There's this massive part of my life that most of the world doesn't yet know about and I'm still trying to process all of it.

[Miranda Catherine]

I simply find myself doing what most women do who want to look pretty and look their best. I don't think that's being addictive, it's being a woman. Truthfully, I never liked just stepping into Levi's and a t-shirt. I love girl things because that's how my mom still is at 86, puts on her makeup every morning, like mother, like daughter. I'm far more concerned about my health problems and three serious surgeries BESIDES SRS. I just broke up with the only man I've ever been in love with and sometimes I wonder if I'm going to survive it, I hurt so badly. That's where the vast majority of my thoughts and energy go to now, I'd marry him in a second and he no longer knows what he wants. I think he's embarrassed that he's in love with a transgendered woman. He intimates that maybe things will be different after I get my gender changed. This just sucks.