So I accepted the fact that I'm trans quite recently, and have only just started coming out to people and figuring out a plan for transition.
My boyfriend, who I'd been with for a couple of months before I came out (although we'd been definitely-not-going-out for about 5 months before that) has been saying he's proud of me and wants to support me and stay with me but he's not comfortable with the idea of dating a man or people thinking he's gay. He's been coping better than he thought he would, and is getting my pronouns right and everything, but he's worried about what will happen when it's harder for him to see me as female and when other people see us as two men.
Part of it is a somewhat homophobic viewpoint where his idea of gay men is very much based on stereotypes. I pointed out to him how many of our friends are bisexual or gay which I think helped a bit but it takes a long time to change a viewpoint like that.
Outside gender identity stuff, he makes me really happy and I enjoy being with him. Before I came out, he never treated me like a girl in the ways other men often do, and didn't put any pressure on me to conform to any gendered expectations. He has mostly been taking this very well and is doing his best to understand.
Although we often talk about the future, I'm worried that there's gonna be an inevitable point where he realises he can't do it any more. I'm also aware that a lot of the doubts I have about transition and plans I'm making are linked to trying to make it easier for him. Obviously, I want it to be as easy for him as possible but I still need to be myself and need him to love me and not her if we're going to be together.
Does anyone have any advice? Or been through a similar situation?
