I can't be the only one not invited to see their family for Christmas?

[V M]

It just possibly may become a Rock and Roll Christmas 

[Clhoe G]

I'll only be having Christmas dinner with my mum, I don't have friends or any other family to support me so it will be nice, I've got prawns, scallops, squid rings, Ham, lobster, tartare sauce, chips, coleslaw, Pavlova and a non alcoholic wine for Christmas dinner, the best way to have an Aussie summer.

[immortal gypsy]

Not so much as not invited, more left behind and forgotten.

Brother 1 (+ wife): Not talking to me
Sister 1 (+ husband): In America on honeymoon
Mother: In America with sister
Brother 2: In America with mother and sister
Sister 2: Has not worked out what state she is pending Christmas in, leaving me in a state of shock.

What is upsetting for me, I thought my mother would be in Queensland this Christmas, and as I was working over the three days we usually have ours early. I found out she was overseas from my sister, who had found out from our aunt in Queensland who found out from our grandmother. As I said I've been left behind and forgotten

[Cindy]

Any Aussies who want to come to my place are welcome!

Any none Aussies are as well of course

[stephaniec]

what time

[Jenny07]

Sort of don't have family to speak of.

Having lunch with my aunt, and her daughters and a phyco cat.
Wish my mum was here but that's not possible.
My sister is living on another planet. Which one is the question. Just picture Sheldon and Amy if you get the idea.
My Dad, the less I think about him the better.
Xmas has always been a hard time for me.

The sooner it passes the better.
I hate it.

Lucky I have to work an have no holidays booked.

[Dee Marshall]

Gypsy, she took her mother and brother on her honeymoon? And they call us strange!

[Eva Marie]

I am so sorry that there is so much pain and rejection of us around the holidays caused by our own families. It is wrong. I want to give everyone a big << hug >>.

If male, I am welcome.   If me, I am not.

I am decided.

I modified your quote Jen because I was given the same decision and I said screw it, i'm NOT going masquerading as the false person I once thought I was - that masquerade almost killed me. And besides, I'd be doing it simply to make someone else feel comfortable. Nope, not gonna do it.

Needless to say I have been disowned and barred from ever seeing them again, which is fine with me. I have friends that are my family where I live now and I'd rather spend time with them than with my biological family.

[Foxglove]

I modified your quote Jen because I was given the same decision and I said screw it, i'm NOT going masquerading as the false person I once thought I was - that masquerade almost killed me. And besides, I'd be doing it simply to make someone else feel comfortable. Nope, not gonna do it.

Same here.  Not too long ago my sister asked me if I would appear at a certain function as my old self, and I refused categorically.  I'll never go back to my old self, not for five minutes, not for any reason.  My sister knows me too well to argue with me.

[JulianWS]

Going to see my family for new year's, but they don't know.  My mom was in the background when I called my dad the other day, saying to make sure I bring "nice" clothes.  She has been policing what I wear my entire life, so it's a huge source of anxiety for me, especially considering the consequences.  The last time I  saw them, she ragged on my short hair the whole time, and then told my dad I can't come to dinner if I don't wear what she bought me (I was wearing very nice feminine clothes btw).  Later that night she emotionally abused the living ->-bleeped-<- out of me in the car, while my dad sat there silently like he always does.  It still hurts when I think about it.  Since I've been starting to figure out my self, I've bought a bunch of guy pants, shoes, etc and plan on wearing them.  The backlash is going to be horrible and traumatizing (screaming, emotion abuse, blackmail), but I truly feel like I have to.  I haven't worn any of my women's pants since I got the guys ones.  I have a binder coming in the mail today, and this past week has felt like the longest week ever waiting for it.  I'm straight up terrified of what I'm getting myself into when I go there.

[jeni]

I'm sorry to hear so many voices who have been rejected by their families. It completely disgusts me to think that someone, a parent especially, could ever do that.

For me, it may be an interesting holiday. Right now, there are three people in the (real) world who know that I'm trans: me, my wife, and my therapist. So far I'm 3/3 for everyone being unbelievably supportive. (Oh, I guess it's four: I suppose the receptionist who took down my appointment with the endocrinologist knows too. ) Over the holidays I am going to come out to my mom and dad. I'm 99.9% sure that they will be supportive and understanding, at least after the initial shock subsides. Still, that 0.1% is scaring the heck out of me. I plan to have "the talks" (separately because they're divorced) after Christmas itself. So I guess the real question is how my New Year's goes...

[Emerald_Marsh]

I spend the day quietly with the only person who truly matters to me myself. And I do the things I enjoy for the the one that truly understands me! Myself on this journey we need to learn to love ourselves! And all the other stuff will fall into place. Be positive you are finding out the people who truly love you. So enjoy the day and love will come

[Broken-hearted]

I spend the day quietly with the only person who truly matters to me myself. And I do the things I enjoy for the the one that truly understands me! Myself on this journey we need to learn to love ourselves! And all the other stuff will fall into place. Be positive you are finding out the people who truly love you. So enjoy the day and love will come

I have to say, you are a really strong person.

[immortal gypsy]

Gypsy, she took her mother and brother on her honeymoon? And they call us strange!

I think from what I heard they went up a week or so later, but essentially Dee yes. My sister has taken her mother and brother with her on a honeymoon, AND the mother in law.  I wish I was making this up,  to know my family is to love them. I will probably be eating cheese ball and doing a 3d jigsaw puzzle Christmas Day

[Sydney_NYC]

I feel bad for everyone that can't be with their family on Christmas. My parents are divorced, my mother remarried for 29 years, my father remarried (a 3rd time) 6 years ago. My father and his wife don't want anything to do with my (although his step daughters that are 20 and 23 are supportive.)

Fortunately my mother and step father, brother, 2 step sisters and step brother have all been accepting and supportive and will be flying down to South Florida for Christmas to visit and spend time with them. (All my sibling are much younger than me with a 8 1/2 years difference between my brother and I and he's the 2nd oldest.) My brother just moved their from here in NJ in September and one of my step sisters move their from Philly last October. My mom is super excited to see me (I last saw her in April about 3 weeks after going full time.) My step father came up to visit in July, and it looking forward to seeing me and my wife again.

[StevieAK]

My elderly inlaws are coming up this year from Wisconsin. They have not seen me in many years and so hope they dont ruin it for my wife and I. It may very well be the last time my wife sees them. There is no way if i wanted to, to try and be old me. My parents and brother and sister long ago saw me on facebook and cut ties. Im pretty nervous just for my wife. Reading the terrible things here ive even less hope. I so wish any of you alone were in Alaska as id invite you to hang with us.

[Rainbow Dash]

Yes, I was invited. but I really REALLY REALLY don't want to go. I have inlaws that still use old names and pronouns. and when I come home on the weekends all my wife and sister-in-law do is bitch about each other, TO ME!

It's like living in a house with cast members from Survivor and I'm that camera they all talk to. Once I get my CDL I will have a good excuse not to attend.
"Yes, I'm sorry. I can't be there this year because I"M MAKING MONEY so you can actually have a Christmas."

I am so looking forward to spending Christmas in a semi. I even have a tiny tree for my dashboard. Add some LED Christmas lights.... it will be great. A day when Santa brings me the gift of one day without whining, fighting, nagging and complaining in either ear and no in-laws who make me want to slap them.

And yes, I am that bitter. The only real joy I had last year was being able to talk with Birkin and wear the PJ's and socks he sent me. And even though he hates my guts I would still rather go to his house than be in mine. The only thing I will miss is my son.

[Illuminess]

I was invited, but I'm not going. "Family" stuff always gives me anxiety.


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[Kristyn74]

I was doing a 'rent to buy ' For the last two years from my mother and when she found out what I was 'doing to myself' she Withdrew the offer,told myself and my partner on the Tuesday two weeks ago we had to get the
Finance to purchase the property within one week. On the Thursday rang my partner and abused her,
Told her we wouldn't get the loan as her solicitor had said we wouldn't. On the Friday we got approval, and on Monday just gone we received an eviction notice. That's ok because she told a family friend that even if I didn't want to talk to her because of her decision she still wants to see the grandkids! Well still packing, down 60grand which was supposed to come off the principal, and she says we still owe her 30 grand .no invites for us either....and my brother has been doing drive bys, and is seeking intervention orders for me to stay away from his family, even though I haven't seen him for six months.
That's it in the short version

[rosinstraya]

I was doing a 'rent to buy ' For the last two years from my mother and when she found out what I was 'doing to myself' she Withdrew the offer,told myself and my partner on the Tuesday two weeks ago we had to get the
Finance to purchase the property within one week. On the Thursday rang my partner and abused her,
Told her we wouldn't get the loan as her solicitor had said we wouldn't. On the Friday we got approval, and on Monday just gone we received an eviction notice. That's ok because she told a family friend that even if I didn't want to talk to her because of her decision she still wants to see the grandkids! Well still packing, down 60grand which was supposed to come off the principal, and she says we still owe her 30 grand .no invites for us either....and my brother has been doing drive bys, and is seeking intervention orders for me to stay away from his family, even though I haven't seen him for six months.
That's it in the short version

In Australian English - that is completely rooted!?! How the hell do these people keep living without self-combusting or blowing up or in some other way self-destructing? What on earth are they gaining by this kind of behaviour.

I'm really sorry you've had such a completely screwed time of it. I hope you and your partner can get through this period and come out the other end in one piece.

I wish you all the very best.