fiance is out

[Kacie Lynne]

Well, i had the chat with my girl and she refused to believe at first
then she decided this is not what she is gonna listen to and she just
kept going on about how i was doing this just to break up with her and
how i was only trying to hurt her so after 30 mins of trying to explain
things the best i can i could see i was not going to get her to listen so
i just asked her to take some time and think about it then if she wants
to talk to give me a call, i guess i was just hoping she would atleast
consider supporting me as a friend even if she dont want the relationship
anymore, well i am ok because i have already come to terms that some people
are gonna react like this and others will stand by and support my decision,
it doesn't matter anymore because my decision has been made no matter what others think

[JulieL]

Hey, Kacey!

I'm so sorry that your girlfriend responded like that, but it sounds like you have a great attitude. You can't make other people accept you. Good luck with everything.

[Rachel]

Kacey, sorry your ex did not support you. You did the right thing and saved yourself and your ex a lot of heartbreak down the road by having the discussion now.

[Kacie Lynne]

well i recieved a phone call today and she wanted to apologize for reacting so harsh,
she said she still wants to be with me but it will take some time to take in all this
information, although she said she is not telling her family i guess it is a first step,
i don't really want to continue a long term relationship unless she can be ok with
her family knowing as well, i am done hiding from everyone and i can only be my true
self if there is nothing to hide anymore so we will see what happens

[Racheliv]

Good to hear she calmed down. It's hard at times, but taking things slow with SO's sounds like the best bet. My initial coming out to my wife was a shocker, but after sometime she's come around and if very supportive. We even have some fun with it now (clothes hair ect). Best wishes

[Vicky Mitchell]

Well I know we all say time is against us but this is one of those things that it will take time.   Do not push to much.   it is a lot for her to take it in.  Me and my wife are still walking on egg shells but I believe we can work and i know she wants that too.  I have only told my wife and she said she does not want her parents to know but i figured they may have to find out one day so i will tackle that for now and for now there is no need for me to come out with them.   I have not told my family either and she does not want to be there when i tell them.  I am ok with that would love for her to be there with me but if she is not ready i will not force her as this is something that i have to do not necessary her.   So when i feel it is time i will meet with my family and tell them and hope for the best but i am ready for the worst.    So hang in there.  Your SO may come around just remember this is all new to her too so try to help her out as much as you can.


Vicky
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