Did I make a mistake?

[Holly31]

OK I will make this short and sweet. I finally got up enough courage to tell my mom I want to become a woman. Now comes the (did I make a mistake part). She is a counselor, and a very good one. But I don't want her to be my counselor, and she is trying to. Now she is asking me questions like why do I need to get my estrogen levels checked, or what are my plans in the next two years. I think I hurt her feelings today by telling her I don't want to talk about it anymore for a while. Anyone here have this happen to them? Or did I just enter the seventh realm of hell. I feel bad!!! Most TG people go their entire life not being able to talk to their parents, or their parents do not accept their lifestyles. My mother opened her arms to me in acceptance. I feel like a heel. I still think deep down she thinks she can cure me. (And again I didn't write this to offend anyone). I guess I need some help talking to her.

[Kat]

if you really aren't comfortable talking with your mom about this in a counciler to patient type deal, then perhaps you should tell her that you would rather have someone more objective be your therapist/counciler.

[Holly31]

I have a therapist I go to on a regular basis. I just told my mother about myself last week.

[Traverse]

Since your mom's a counselor, I think she'd be more likely to understand if you tell her in a polite way. I wouldn't want to talk about it with my mom just because it would be embarassing, awkward, and I would be likely to hold back a lot of important junk.

[cindianna_jones]

Tell her that you are sorry.  Work up the courage to talk to her on the most intimate level.  Open your heart and answer all her questions.  Then, dig deeper, and truly share what is in your heart, the pain you have felt, and who you really are.  Then tell her you love her.

She deserves that much.  And more so, so do you.  You are extremely fortunate to have a mother who wants to discuss this with you.  It took me and my mother more than 15 years before we could discuss these things.  It wasn't until after I could talk to her that I could feel released from the guilt and pain we've had.... now we have shared... and moved passed it.

My best to you.  Enjoy your life.

Chin up!

Cindi