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Nearly Forty and Starting Life!

Started by VioletTara, December 18, 2014, 10:56:31 PM

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VioletTara

Hello!

I've been on Spiro and Estradiol for 6 months and my doc just increased my meds!  Woot!

I don't really know how to engage in online forums very well.  I'm trying to seek out community, both on and off line but I don't really have a lot in common with most of the transgender folks at the local GLBTQ center.  But I also don't really have a lot in common with most of the cis-women I know either.  So while I love my body now and love this person I'm becoming, I've had a hard time connecting with others.  I haven't found my community.

My wife just told me she wants to get a divorce.  The worse part is that she also came out as a lesbian... so basically she wants "the real deal".  The bite stings.

But I am also relieved because she was recently diagnoses with borderline personality (along with a bunch of other mental health issues).  So as much as that hurt, I'm glad to let her go because living with someone with BPD has been a depressing 10 year roller coaster.  For all I know, she was just lying to manipulate me as she has been doing for a decade now.  Needless to say, I'm a but jaded but at the same time, trying really hard to enjoy this person that I am without the chains of my soon-to-be ex. 

Anyway, this is just a first step and I hope to be back here.  I'm going to make an effort to participate here!  (part of my therapy homework, too!)

For now, I go by Tara but in real life, I haven't quite figured out a name that I like.  Nice to see so many people trying to just be happy as themselves!

:-)


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mrs izzy

VioletTara
Welcome to Susan's family.
There are a many here that should have information to help.
Pull up a chair and give a look over the following links for site info...
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Izzy
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JulieL

Welcome, VioletTara!

We're really glad to have you. I'm sorry for the rollercoaster relationship you've had with your wife. But it sounds like you're in a good a place now.

Best of luck on your journey!

:icon_hug:
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Jenny07

Welcome Violet Tara

I can relate as my ex had BPD. I hate you don't leave me.
It's a horrible ride for someone who cares.

Take some time for yourself as I know you would have had precious little.

Nice news about the increase in dosage.

Hugs
Jen
So long and thanks for all the fish
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Gina Taylor

Gina Marie Taylor  8)
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rosinstraya

Hi Tara!

Sorry to hear about that messy home life. This journey can be pretty bumpy, it goes without saying.

I hope you can find the person who can appreciate you and be with you for all the right reasons.

Good luck, and take care.
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V M

Hi Tara  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

Superficial fanny kissing friends are a dime a dozen, a TRUE FRIEND however is PRICELESS


- V M
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Devlyn

Hi Tara, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm the Boston representative. Glad you found us, see you around the site!

Hugs, Devlyn
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