Do in-laws and ex-husbands count as relatives?
I'm 64 years old, partially transmale and very androgynous. Most of my family are mixed gender, but unaware of it, and seemingly content with their assigned gender labels.
I didn't realize I was partial trans/non-binary until four years ago, and knew I'd been suppressing a male personality since puberty.
Before that, I didn't think of it at all. I just assumed I was male, even though I "knew" I was a girl.
Strangely, everyone else, including my parents, also accepted me as male, even though it was never expressed, and gender issues weren't even on the map.
Once I understood and explained it to my grown daughter she said she was the same as I am, except with little dysphoria or conflict. accepting her male side as a matter of course.
My ex-husband recently emailed me out of the blue, saying he is considering transitioning to non-binary female, wants to start taking hormones and live as a woman, and also come live with me in Thailand, but I don't know if he's just pulling some con job or not.
He was incredibly treacherous when I was with him, so this could be some plot to dump his current wife.
I told him not to contact me unless he's divorced, and has seen a gender counselor.
He has a brother who is very femme, showing signs of the familiar anger and frustration issues I used to have, as well as my ex, as we tried to cope with our gender roles, but his family are wealthy, religious Republicans, so not much chance he will come out, if so.
His OTHER brother found out a few years ago his wife is actually a transwoman, and he was angry for being "tricked" and divorced her.
I suppose mixed gender people are often attracted to people who are similar.
