Trouble passing going into FFS?

[Eveline]

Before going into FFS, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have passed:



That doesn't mean I couldn't have been happy, but I am now much more comfortable in my skin.

[lemons]

I suppose I'm replying to this a bit late, but I thought I'd share my opinion with anyone who is interested.

To other people:
It takes a truly exaggerated masculine feature to ruin a good face, voice, and natural set of mannerisms. You'd have to have enormous shoulders (like 19-20"+ at 5'10"), extraordinarily veiny or monstrously thick hands, facial hair, blatantly male fat distribution that was never exercised away, or a mild combination of several of these things in concert with a height exceeding 6 feet. The height, of course, depends on where you are in the world and what your ethnicity is; taller in the Netherlands, shorter in most parts of Asia, etc.

One thing to keep in mind is that taller women tend to have more exaggerated features. Their figures creep toward the slender and emphasize verticality. They are slightly more prone to wider shoulders and bigger feet, by ratio. Certainly, having a shoe size just outside of what you find in the store or shoulders that are an inch or two wider than average will not compromise your presentation. There are very few people that FFS cannot help get complete passability, assuming that voice and mannerisms are in place. The few exceptions tend to have exceptionally long or thin faces -- and there are many exceptions to that group, as well.

I'm working with a body at 6 feet tall, size 12 women's shoes, somewhat bigger but still relatively thin hands, and my shoulders are about 17.5 inches.  My body isn't great...but I've been told it's feminine enough, especially if I were to gain hips and gain a smaller waist working out would likely help a lot.  My head is enormous though, like a giant bowling ball or an outer planet.  It measures at 23.7 inches or 60 cm around, and I've heard of even cis women with this sized head but it looks different than mine, not so massive and out of place on their body. When I had my consult with Spiegel I expressed all my concerns and he said 1. My body was basically fine and 2. It wasn't the size that was too big but the shape of my head being rather square and long and they could help make it rounder and smaller.  He also seemed very confident with my post-op outcome telling me several times I could probably even go back to having short hair, I'd likely make for a very attractive woman, and I have little to worry about.

Yet I still have my doubts. :/

[mmmmm]

Hairline lowering, some setting back of your forehead with proper type3, nose revision for smaller more feminine nose, liplift, and appropriate jaw&chin agressive work, would make your head definitely apear much smaller. You cant change overall size of your head, but a good surgeon is capable of reshaping your face in a way that your will face appear and become smaller, and that would make all your head appear smaller. That wouldn't be a serious concern for me at all. Also a very little head would make your shoulders and neck look much broader and wider. A slightly bigger than ideal head makes your shoulders look narrower, which isn't such a bad thing at all. I'm also 6 feet tall, but rather very slight built, with little hands, small feet, and a smaller size head.. which makes my average size 17 inch shoulders appear a little broader than they really are. And I'm not too thrilled about that. But I do eat a LOT of chocolate&stuff to compensate with the width of my hips