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Starting HRT to Going Full Time - How Long?

Started by Brenda E, December 30, 2014, 07:37:39 PM

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Julia-Madrid

Brenda, while you have posed your question as being "from HRT to full time", you can see variability starting from before HRT to waiting many years.

Is there a "right" moment to go full time?  I'd say that the moment arrives when you feel ready for it.  You'll see that some of us jump when we know we'll pass, and others just don't care.

I took less than 4 months, but with some serious checks, balances and planning.  In order of priority, I'd say that these were:


  • Support from family and friends for what I was doing
  • Agreement, even from my bluntest friends, that I was quite passable
  • Written support from my employer and key managers and work colleagues
  • Knowing that I was ready, in terms of clothes, voice, presentation and mannerisms, to attend customer meetings without them wondering what type of creature I was
  • Finally, just feeling that it was the right moment to jump and not turn back

Hope this helps.
A/J
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Alaia

I started HRT back in March '13. When I moved out in August I began presenting female about 75% of the time. I'm still not out at work or when I go visit my kids. I plan on going FT at work soon as I get my name change done in Jan/Feb.



"Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray."

― Rumi
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Beverly

I went full time 16 months before starting HRT
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Brenda E

Quote from: Hikari on December 30, 2014, 10:23:59 PMI mean I guess if anything my boobs just got too big to conceal . . .

This'll probably be the defining factor for me too if they don't stop growing soon.

2015 - I think I'll work on making sure my mindset is right.  As you've all mentioned, being mentally comfortable with going full time seems to be the goal, rather than any particular level of HRT-induced passability.

Confidence, I suppose, is the bottom line. :)
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WFane

I started full time in November of 2013, and went on meds after finally finding an endo in April of 2014. So... 6 months before lol.
I gotta say though, getting correctly gendered in public started happening a lot more often after about a month on HRT. Not sure why, as physical changes didn't really show until after 3 months.
~Alyssa
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jeni

Quote from: WFane on December 31, 2014, 11:27:53 AM
I gotta say though, getting correctly gendered in public started happening a lot more often after about a month on HRT. Not sure why, as physical changes didn't really show until after 3 months.
Self-confidence?
-=< Jennifer >=-

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ImagineKate

Well I'm not full time at work yet but I had planned Summer 2015... but I may have to push that up a bit as my boobs are growing and I really can't wear anything without them protruding. Yeah, I know, what a problem to have, right? I started HRT officially at the beginning of December but in total I have about 3 months under my belt.

I want to at least clear most of the facial hair and get an acceptable voice before I do though. And I want to get my name and gender marker changed so I can challenge anyone who tries to chase me out the ladies room with authority. 

I will never have full support of my wife and my parents I'm just telling them now. So I'm not even taking that into account. I need to be me.

I may do like Hikari and just go with the flow until I'm full time without even realizing it.

I am certainly NOT wasting years of my life.
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Shodan

So I've been on HRT for... (looks at ticker) around 14 months? I still haven't gone full time yet, though I did set a date for myself for this April. If I don't do that, I'll never think I'm ready enough. :/




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Wynternight

Today marks four months on hormones and I'm rapidly heading towards male fail unless I speak. My current timeline is:

Come out at work in May
Yeson voice surgery next year
Go full time
One year of saving and working two jobs in prep for GRS.
Stooping down, dipping my wings, I came into the darkly-splendid abodes. There, in that formless abyss was I made a partaker of the Mysteries Averse. LIBER CORDIS CINCTI SERPENTE-11;4

HRT- 31 August, 2014
FT - 7 Sep, 2016
VFS- 19 October, 2016
FFS/BA - 28 Feb, 2018
SRS - 31 Oct 2018
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Jenny07

Still holding out but It will happen.

At home I am full time.
So long and thanks for all the fish
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allisonsteph

Due to a job loss and loss of health insurance I began living full time and even changed my name legally before beginning HRT. I could not live another minute with my birth name and wearing a male costume.
In Ardua Tendit (She attempts difficult things)
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April_TO

I am planning to go full time at least by summer of 2015 (July or August). I currently have an A cup and can hide them when I am wearing jackets and winter coats. However, when the heat strikes I wonder how am I going to hide my girls except for binding them which I think defeats the main goal of transitioning.

I am lucky that I live in Ontario, Canada - Transgender are given full rights to go full time at work regardless of a legal name/gender change. You just have to let your employer know that this is now my name and you should address me with the correct pronouns. I am not saying that I will not change my name but it's not a pre-requisite. :)

Ontario Human Rights Commission
13.3.3 Recognizing lived gender identity
Sometimes, a person may choose not to change their name and gender on their identity documents. In other instances, different documents may indicate different names and/or gender designations. Regardless of what is recorded on a person's identity documents, a trans person should be addressed in person by their chosen name and gender.

Organizations should accommodate if a trans person asks them to have documents recognize a name that differs from their legal name.

Example: A trans student requests that class lists reflect their lived gender identity and chosen name. This would help make sure teachers and other staff and students address them appropriately.

Depending on the circumstances, the Code may allow for limits on the duty to accommodate, especially if a person chooses not to change their legal name. An organization would have to show their criteria for recognizing a person's gender identity is legitimate and they were unable to accommodate short of undue hardship (see sections 9 and 10 of this policy on reasonable bona fide requirements and the duty to accommodate). A person's chosen name and gender might still be used alongside their legal name, again, if appropriate in the circumstances.

Example: A trans client requests that electronic health records at their local walk-in clinic reflect their lived gender identity and chosen name alongside current health card information that shows a different name and gender. This would help make sure healthcare professionals and other staff address them appropriately in person.

For prescriptions and other documents, ordering medical procedures and referrals to other health care practitioners, the clinic believes the name and gender shown on the person's health card is also necessary to avoid any health and safety risk from mistakes that might happen.

In many cases, organizations will not need corroboration or proof of a person's lived gender identity to recognize a person's chosen name and gender in their administrative system. A person's request should usually be enough.

Example: The University of Toronto has a policy that allows students to change their name and gender on academic records, class lists and online student databases by writing a letter to their college registrar, requesting this change. The university will require the student to establish and authenticate their identity.[115]

A person's self-identified gender should be accepted genuinely in good faith even if identity documents do not match their lived gender. An organization would need a serious reason to doubt someone's self-identified gender.[116]
Nothing ventured nothing gained
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warlockmaker

I still have'nt gone full time. Its all work related as I am the CEO and majority owner of a financial institution. Each day it gets mre difficult as the changes raise questions - I'm debating if I should just come out at work as the financial industry has very strong protection agaist discrimination against LGBT.  Just an internal debate - if I want to be an advocate as this way would make the news. Hoped to quietly sell out and dissappear and thus no publicity.
When we first start our journey the perception and moral values all dramatically change in wonderment. As we evolve further it all becomes normal again but the journey has changed us forever.

SRS January 21st,  2558 (Buddhist calander), 2015
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Eva Marie

I began taking a transitioning dose of HRT on October the 8th of 2013, my divorce became final on August the 11th of 2014, I did my legal name and gender change on September the 15th of 2014, and I came out at work on September the 17th of 2014. That's about a year between popping those blue pills and walking into work as Eva.

I didn't really have a timeline to do this - I was playing it by ear. The things that gave me the final shove were my divorce and my evolving female appearance - I had recently experienced a couple of male fails and I was running out of options to hide my boobs at work (the baggy dress shirt really wasn't working well anymore at hiding them). It was simply time to do it.

I had been doing laser hair removal prior to coming out and had been practicing going out en femme for quite a while so when the day came it was not that big of a deal. I simply got to work early, walked into my office and left the door open, and waited for everyone to walk past my office out of curiosity to see me (which they all did of course  :laugh:).

Within 30 days I was old, stale news around the water cooler and it was all over with - which is as it should be.
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April_TO

Amazing share Eva, for some reason I just have this internal yearning to do it sooner than later. I'm living almost full time since I dress up very feminine during our casual Fridays and dress a bit andro from Mon - Thursday. Weekends is femme mode.

Decisions decisions :)

Quote from: Eva Marie on December 31, 2014, 08:36:44 PM
I began taking a transitioning dose of HRT on October the 8th of 2013, my divorce became final on August the 11th of 2014, I did my legal name and gender change on September the 15th of 2014, and I came out at work on September the 17th of 2014. That's about a year between popping those blue pills and walking into work as Eva.

I didn't really have a timeline to do this - I was playing it by ear. The things that gave me the final shove were my divorce and my evolving female appearance - I had recently experienced a couple of male fails and I was running out of options to hide my boobs at work (the baggy dress shirt really wasn't working well anymore at hiding them). It was simply time to do it.

I had been doing laser hair removal prior to coming out and had been practicing going out en femme for quite a while so when the day came it was not that big of a deal. I simply got to work early, walked into my office and left the door open, and waited for everyone to walk past my office out of curiosity to see me (which they all did of course  :laugh:).

Within 30 days I was old, stale news around the water cooler and it was all over with - which is as it should be.
Nothing ventured nothing gained
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ImagineKate

I don't know if it will be much of a surprise when I show up to work as Kate. I kinda already dress femme but more on the androgynous side. I did plan to wear a dress or skirt my first day full time at work, just so there is no confusion, besides I always wanted to go to work in a dress.
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Handy

My original plan was to complete my schooling, get a job, do HRT on the side and the second I saved up enough for bottom surgery get that and just abandon all I've known and live a stealth life.

Well, my first year in college I decided I wasn't willing to wait and would just HAVE to come out so I could use my parent's health insurance for the endo

thus, my NEW plan was to just ride HRT until I graduated, then wait until every surgery is done and look for a new job/live a new life/etc.

well, I got antsy and decided "screw it", so here I am: One semester left, going full time at both work and school. total time: 3.5 years from coming out to full time.

I realize this is not an encouraging number; that said keep in mind I am a big baby, and I put it off for as long as I felt I could out of fear.
On HRT 2 years - Full time 1/7/14
EE-Comp Engineering Student and Cartoon Lover
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jeni

Quote from: Handy on December 31, 2014, 11:53:06 PM
I realize this is not an encouraging number; that said keep in mind I am a big baby, and I put it off for as long as I felt I could out of fear.
Honestly, I find any number that ends with being full time to be extremely encouraging...
-=< Jennifer >=-

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Stephe

I lived full time 3 years before I took the first pill. Just do it :P
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bluebirdx88

I was fulltime for close to 5 years before I was alowed to start HRT... Technically you need to be fulltime 1 year before being alowed to start HRT if you follow the law, at least in my country... But it took about 3 years of burocracy.... The previous two years... Well lets say I went fulltime immediately for two reasons.... I didnt mind not having pills yet, I just had to be me and that couldnt wait.... Also.... The idea of being "part-time" was just... No. Not only would people doubt me... I'd doubt myself....


I guess it's different for each person..... But if I could be me 100% of the time for 5 years before HRT... The idea of starting before is a bit absurd.... Not to mention that you should  live and know what to expect, how society will treat you and experience reality and inequality first hand before you take the big step... Not after as you will not be prepared.



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