Full Time Considerations; What's Necessary?

[Handy]

Greetings Ladies!!! I hope this day finds you all well!!!

So... I'm currently confronted with one of those situations we all must face when finally going full time: I have a dentist appointment scheduled for the 13th,  and well, I ought look considerably different when I get in there! My legal name is still the original hideous male name, and they actually kind of know me at this office.

What do you do in these kinds of situations?? Do you call them and say, "Hey, just offering a heads up!" or walk in like, "...so what's new with you?"

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Handy,

I've always found the direct approach works best. On the day, front up and just advise them the old name is no longer relevant or legal, these are the new details. Simple, straight forward, no fuss.

No need for any war stories on the how, when's, where's why's, it's none of their business. Just like changing your address. You don't need to tell them why you've changed your address, you just need to tell them.

Huggs
Catherine 

[Mariah]

Handy, since you haven't changed your name yet I would recommend just going in.  The doctor may or may not ask why you look the way you do at that point you really do need to be honest if you feel comfortable doing so. This also give the dentist an idea of what keep an eye out for plus they would need to know any medications your on if you have already started HRT.  As Catherine pointed out it is none of their business and you don't have to answer if you don't want too, but being straight forward and honest with them is the best policy. The staff up front in every case didn't say anything. Then once you have changed your name legally then you can notify them before or at your appointments. In the meantime some doctors may ask what name you would like to be called by and many will honor that and will even note it to your chart so the rest of the staff also honor you properly even though every medical request sent elsewhere will still be under your legal name. Good Luck and Hugs
Mariah

Greetings Ladies!!! I hope this day finds you all well!!!

So... I'm currently confronted with one of those situations we all must face when finally going full time: I have a dentist appointment scheduled for the 13th,  and well, I ought look considerably different when I get in there! My legal name is still the original hideous male name, and they actually kind of know me at this office.

What do you do in these kinds of situations?? Do you call them and say, "Hey, just offering a heads up!" or walk in like, "...so what's new with you?"
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[Foxglove]

Hi, Handy!  I was in exactly the same situation not too long ago, except that I had already changed my name--though that didn't make any difference since I had to give them my old name so that they could find my file.  It was no big deal.  No hassle from anybody.  In fact, it was a bit weird because the dentist was talking to me like nothing had changed, like that was the way I'd been all my life.  I had expected some sort of reaction and got none at all.