For the extra tall...

[V M]

A tall cool woman in a black dress??

  I do like that song, and I do have a few black dresses 

Hugs

[Sydney_NYC]

I do wear heals on occasion, sometimes I just like the way they make my legs loos and it's hard to find boots without heels. I don't go more than 3 inch heals, because then I start to hit door frames. However I only wear heels that a 44 your old cis-woman would wear.

[PurpleCrown]

Do you all feel you need to wear flats in public or are there cases where you feel heels can be appropriate? I am trying to imagine whether I would be doomed to a life of sensible shoes . Thank you for all of the comments about self-confidence - that is definitely going to be a journey for me in many respects. I'm 52 and a lot of this feels pretty disorienting.

Nerissa Grace

I have huge feet, so finding the right shoes can be hard sometimes. I wear sneakers most of the time, but also have some boots with small heels. I do wear higher heels to parties, job interviews etc. or when I feel like it'd make a good addiction to an outfit.

I don't go more than 3 inch heals, because then I start to hit door frames.

Nothing too high though for this exact reason xD

I'm tall either with or without heels, so an extra few inches won't change my situation. 

[BunnyBee]

Totally agree, I'm 6'2"ish also and apparently here in the West being a tall woman has something to do with a drink of water 

Haha.

Do you all feel you need to wear flats in public or are there cases where you feel heels can be appropriate? I am trying to imagine whether I would be doomed to a life of sensible shoes . Thank you for all of the comments about self-confidence - that is definitely going to be a journey for me in many respects. I'm 52 and a lot of this feels pretty disorienting.

Nerissa Grace

I never wear heels.  Cute flats are a thing, don't worry.

[Alana_Jane]

I've found my shoes though Payless.  Some stores will carry up to a 13w.  I have a pair of black patent Karmen pumps in 12w and a set of black ballet flats in 13(regular).  Once you're already tall, what's another 3" 

-Alana

[JoanneB]

It is funny, as in very sad, it seems once you pass the magic "Size 10" in women's shoes they all seem to suddenly get totally butt ugly and/or have 3-6 inch heels. Like WTF? I'm in the borderline of 10-11 but a really odd shaped foot with a very large arch. Forget pull-up boots  Along with a lot of shoe styles that actually cover the foot.

Nevertheless, I tend towards heels in the sub 3" height since I love being in a skirt. I also have some decent, but plain, flats. One time when I was trying on shoes, in particular a pair of flats, I just had to laugh when I thought to myself how odd it is to be in flats! And I was barely part-time then

[ashley_thomas]

You can pass even if tall, I do and I'm 6'4" unofficially (I won't admit to any additional height except under oath).  There are many other factors though that go into it.  Height even extreme height isn't enough to cause you to be read.  I try to avoid heels, but I do wear some.

[Vicky Mitchell]

I am 6' and used to worry about it but after meeting and hearing how many tall women are on here I just keep thinking blend blend blend.   One think I know for sure people come in all shape and sizes.  A guy shorter then 5' 4" is no less a guy then a guy 6' so why should it be different for us women.


Vicky

[Sabine]

Do you all feel you need to wear flats in public or are there cases where you feel heels can be appropriate? I am trying to imagine whether I would be doomed to a life of sensible shoes . Thank you for all of the comments about self-confidence - that is definitely going to be a journey for me in many respects. I'm 52 and a lot of this feels pretty disorienting.

Nerissa Grace

It takes a little time to figure out what is "you" and your style and comfort level in clothes and shoes. I always tell people to be patient and not go out and buy a lot of shoes until they figure out what works for them. Some of that is trial and error, but you can learn some of it.  One of my cis F friends warned me early on not to chintz on shoes as well made ones tend to be more comfortable and last longer, but that meant trying a few inexpensive pairs in various styles. You can get a lot of good quality shoes on sale our from catalogs (once you know your sizes in various lines). The catalogs also tend to include larger sizes -- even for major brands -- and at sale time often that's what's left. I am lucky in that I can usually just buy a 10, but it varies. I do see that more stores are now carrying larger sizes, though.

I am about your age , and I find that I don't have to "go" sensible. I do wear heels. But I also don't like heels higher than about 3". Some of it is very much about being age appropriate, but often it's also just about being "classic". You can look for "kitten heels" which are about 1.5-2 inches. There are plenty of very nice flats and low heeled shoes that are perfectly in fashion at any age. Go through some of the catalogs, or even just watch when you are out.  I wear heels when in the appropriate setting, but often I'm wearing flats or boots. You can get flat heel boots ( I have many pairs, most of which are flat) from most boot making brands.

Because I walk so much, I don't often wear heels outside the office or events. But that's pretty common for most women. Heels are not practical much of the time. Most women have a few "go to" pairs of shoes that they rotate through because of what they do for work or because of the comfort or style. Then they have a  stash of other shoes that go with various outfits or for occasions.  I always tell people to just get a couple pairs of black pumps at a heights they want to try, along with a couple of pairs of flats, and see what works. Also: give yourself time to break in shoes, especially heels. Most women have a love-hate relationship with their shoes. When you find one that works and is comfortable, buy a second pair. They are harder to find than you think.