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Coming out tomorrow

Started by nebs, January 04, 2015, 01:40:20 PM

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nebs

I've decided to finally come out to my mom tomorrow. She's the first person besides my counselor who I'll be out to. I'm choosing her first because I think she's the most likely to be accepting.

I've made sure she's going to be by herself at her house and she knows to expect a serious conversation. I've written a short letter that I'm going to read aloud to do the actual coming out, then hopefully we can just talk afterward.

I wanted to do this earlier, but I felt like the holidays were a bad time. Plus, now I can make coming out to everyone my New Year's resolution :D.

I'll let you know how it goes.

-Anna
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Skyler

Good luck Anna! I hope everything goes well and that your mom is accepting of the real you :)
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Ms Grace

Hope it goes well. Let us know!
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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mrs izzy

Anna,

Remember to breathe.

Make a copy for your mom so she can digest it after you come out aloud and go back home.

It is a big step but you know it is needed for your happiness.

Step at a time we walk this path.

Hugs
Mrs. Izzy
Trans lifeline US 877-565-8860 CAD 877-330-6366 http://www.translifeline.org/
"Those who matter will never judge, this is my given path to walk in life and you have no right to judge"

I used to be grounded but now I can fly.
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Brenda E

I can't wait to hear how it goes - exciting times ahead, for sure.  An accepting mom is like the best thing ever.  Fingers crossed!
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nebs

Thanks, all.

Good Idea, Izzy. I'll be sure to leave her a copy.
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AbeLane

Good luck! Let us know how it goes!
"It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are."
-e. e. cummings


"I still believe in heroes."
-Nick Fury, Avengers


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JenniR04

Best of luck, will be thinking of you. As others have said, please let us know how it goes.
"Being with no one is better than being with the wrong one. Sometimes, those who fly solo have the strongest wings!"
Hugs, Jenni R.



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nebs

It's done! I am out to my mom :D

The beginning basically went as planned, we sat on the couch and I read the letter to her. After I started reading and she realized exactly how serious it was she got up and sat across from me and held my legs to comfort me. When it was done she sat next to me and we just hugged for a while and talked a little like that. She said she was really proud of me for having the courage to do this and that she supports me. She also said she had always known that I wasn't comfortable in my own skin, although she had thought it wasn't anything like this and maybe I was gay instead.

One thing that surprised me was that she said this wasn't Earth-shattering news and she didn't think it would be to anyone else in the family, although it will definitely take time to get used to. The weird thing was this just felt like talking, I was expecting to be all nervous but she was just so accepting that I felt really normal. We took the dogs out for a walk then went out for lunch and had drinks. It was basically a normal day with my mom except the topic of conversation was different. In the end I realized I was just really happy and relieved.

I know not everyone has an experience as positive as this and I'm pretty lucky, but hopefully it goes to show that coming out isn't guaranteed to suck. I hope others in the future have similarly positive experiences!
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mrs izzy

Glad it was not what you feared.

Most of the times it is not.

Now you have more positives to move forward.

Hugs and safe passage.
Mrs. Izzy
Trans lifeline US 877-565-8860 CAD 877-330-6366 http://www.translifeline.org/
"Those who matter will never judge, this is my given path to walk in life and you have no right to judge"

I used to be grounded but now I can fly.
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2fish

This is truly amazing! I'm very happy for you! :D
http://www.gender158.com (A Trans-Masculine Resource Website)
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Brenda E

Absolutely love reading these positive accounts of coming out.  Thanks so much for sharing, and I'm happy it turned out perfect. :)
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antonia

Awesome, good for you and congratulations, your mom sounds like a wonderful person and if the rest of your family is anything like her you won't have any issues :)
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Lostkitten

It seems you have an awesome mom. Good for you ^^.
:D Want to see me ramble, talk about experiences or explaining about gender dysphoria? :D
http://thedifferentperspectives3000.blogspot.nl/
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AbeLane

"It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are."
-e. e. cummings


"I still believe in heroes."
-Nick Fury, Avengers


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Jason C

It's so awesome to hear positive reactions, this is brilliant, congrats and well done! :)
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