I have a close group of friends up locally where I live. These aren't really good ole country boys but they like things like target shooting and outdoors. But really they aren't into "girly" stuff. There are a lot of off color jokes and misogyny and sometimes even homophobic comments made. I just stay silent and roll with it. I mean I have spoken against some of the stuff but it just happens so often I just don't even bother anymore. Apart from that they're good.
But I came out to one of them, and pretty soon I'm going to come out to all of them. The one I came out too was pretty supportive. The others probably will be too.
But my wife is now saying," so if you consider yourself to be a woman now, why are you hanging out with a bunch of these rough men?" To be fair she has somewhat of a point, but at the same time they are my friends. It's not even that I'm scared for my safety as I can most definitely handle myself.
I dunno, I was thinking of maybe scaling back hanging out, it's not like we hang out often to begin with, maybe once every few weeks. I want to go back to making more friends with women, as I did before I emigrated to the U.S. and how I do in my professional life (I talk and hang out with women at work, not really men as much). I mean the shooting thing is no big deal as I can go on my own and I always meet new people at the club range anyway.
So the question is, have you scaled back or adjusted friendships when you transitioned, or did you keep your same friends? What changed and how?
I have something else but I'll save it for later.
