Bad experience, feel like s**t.

[AlexW]

...managed to mortally insult my gender therapist over a misunderstanding. Yeah, I get that I was getting the therapy at a discount, but we agreed on a price in dollars, charging me in euros because it's 'my currency' (which it's not), then saying 'everyone says dollars even when they mean other currencies' isn't okay just cause I'm getting it cheaper than usual. I told them I would save up to pay full price, then THEY said that the lower price was fine and dandy. Me asking for an explanation for the change in currency, and thus higher price, isn't an insult, it's a request for an explanation. Also, calling me ungrateful even after I sent them a 'thank you' note after our first session is ->-bleeped-<-ing bizarre.

I don't know how the heck I'm supposed to feel.

[frances_larina]

Personally, I'd write it off as a bad fit and move on.  I'd do that with any therapist that called me ungrateful or otherwise acted in an unprofessional manner, including not gracefully handling a misunderstanding due to currency conversion.  There are many other therapists out there, hopefully you'll find another soon that is such a good fit you forget all about this one!

[suzifrommd]

Doesn't sound like a misunderstanding. Sounds like an attempt to cheat you, and then a lot of defensiveness on your therapists part. Is it possible they're playing mind games to try to get you to feel guilty in order to cover up something that was clearly their mistake?

Minute my therapist starts playing mind games, that's the minute I hit the highway, good price or not.

[AlexW]

Thanks for the replies.

Yeah, I've written the therapist off as a bad fit/possible scam. I just feel horrible, because I had started to think of this as the first step in pulling myself from the closet and into transition, and now I feel like an elastic that has been snapped violently back into the closet. There were a couple of days there where I was trying to go back into denial for some reason. I'm a  bit better now, but I'm still smarting from the betrayed trust.

[Ms Grace]

Time to find a new therapist I think. Hopefully the next one will be professional and work to help you not their bank balance.

[frances_larina]

Thanks for the replies.

Yeah, I've written the therapist off as a bad fit/possible scam. I just feel horrible, because I had started to think of this as the first step in pulling myself from the closet and into transition, and now I feel like an elastic that has been snapped violently back into the closet. There were a couple of days there where I was trying to go back into denial for some reason. I'm a  bit better now, but I'm still smarting from the betrayed trust.

But you made it through.  You are stronger now.  And it's likely you won't put up with a therapist like that again.  You've taken more than the first step; you've survived your first stumble and kept going!  Think of it this way; the trust you lost in the therapist you gained in your Self.   

[Dawn B.]

I would get a new therapist he/she sounds very rude. The therapist is making it sound like the problem was you when they messed up the currency. Don't have any hard feeling about it. I had to switch counselors because she thought I was lying about being trans and would start arguments with my parents.   

[FTMax]

I thought I had commented on this! Or maybe it was another thread of yours. But seriously, don't feel bad about not clicking with your first therapist. I was the same way - felt like this was what I needed to really start transitioning, wanted to do it all right/not take any steps backwards. I did my research and found someone who I felt was a good fit, came recommended, fit my budget, etc. And it just didn't work out.

At least you're learning what kind of person she is right up front and you didn't funnel hundreds of dollars into her, only to get stiffed later.

[ImagineKate]

Sometimes you need to go through one or two until you find one that fits. My previous one was so-so but this new one is amazing.