how often do you think about it?

[Elsa Delyth]

Sometimes I'm asleep and am not changing sexes between my dreams, sometimes in the middle of them.

I think I obsess a lot more about it now after having been part-time. I now have affirmation about passing or getting by well enough. One major hurdle over. But then what? Work, family, etc. all major hurdles and balancing losses there against the joy of being out in the real world as the real me.

I almost never remember my dreams, and when I do it is a vague outline. Might have something to do with my having practically zero visual memory.

[Sheila Grace]

Once I realized what the process was and what I am, it has consciously been with me almost constantly. I have recently begun to have dreams in which I am Sheila. That is a big step, I think. Somehow, my conscious psyche is in sync with the deeper realm of Soul; and, I think more and more of having the outside match that beautiful feminine that is blossoming on the inside.

[Paige]

Not always... you know... sometimes I'm asleep! Lol.

I really like this.

For most of the last 50 years I'm thinking about it hourly or more, unless I get distracted.  Distraction has always been my solution, work, sports, alcohol or drugs.  Anything to stop my mind from going there.  It never really worked for long and the alcohol especially would make it much worse after.

Paige

[ChiGirl]

Just once a day.  Usually starts around the time I wake up and ends at bedtime.

[CaptFido87]

Just once a day.  Usually starts around the time I wake up and ends at bedtime.

haha yes. My exact thoughts. I just can't stop thinking about it. It's always on my mind

[ErinReign]

I almost never remember my dreams, and when I do it is a vague outline. Might have something to do with my having practically zero visual memory.

I have a pretty good visual memory but rarely ever remember even vague outlines of my dreams.

As for how often I think about it, multiple times per day most days for close to the past decade. I find that I mostly think about it while not actively doing something, however there are times when I will be playing a game, in class/work, or even in a conversation where the thoughts will distract me.

[Jennygirl]

Sometimes I like to make graphs instead of type words

My own personal experience has been like this:

[Hikari]

Lol I am with Jennygirl, I really think less and less about it as time goes on. I will probably think more about things leading up to and after doing things about being trans, but tbh it doesn't run my life the way it did when I first started to transition.

[Jennygirl]

Yeah exactly!

Still though there are a lot of ups and downs with it, seemed to always be dependent on what actions I was taking at the time. I also kinda discovered I have moderately severe anxiety after about any surgery. I have another surgery coming up in a month, to do a little fat transfer to my hips. I am sure I'll skyrocket back up there at first and then plummet lower than ever before on the trans-ness attention factor.

I've gotten better at predicting this kinda stuff on the daily basis scale, but really giving up my self consciousness made the biggest difference. Though I don't know if I could have really given that up without taking the steps earlier on. It's gonna be different for everyone.

[Ptero]

I think about being trans* every time somebody misgender me. So, every time somebody talks to me.

Non-trans people very often talk about being boys or girls in fact. In very subtle ways, like in everyday stereotypes. Or like just enjoying a "gendered" activity. And they don't realize that they are talking about their gender. So that could be something you could make your parents think about.

But I also think it's very important to be able to continue enjoying life. Yes, it's very difficult to get your mind on something else. But it also lowers stress, anxiety, anger and so on. And permits to open yourself to the others and the others to you. because they can't relate to specific trans* issues so it's a good thing for you and them to keep the feeling that you are not different. You are just transitioning but not stopping being their kid, their friend, and so on.

[Cindy]

I have thought on this, mainly because I was trying to help a young woman accept herself.

I never think about it anymore, unless I am deliberately outing myself in a talk. Yes it was all consuming at one time, but now I'm just a woman. Nothing special just another woman going through her life.

If anything I sort of miss being trans, it made me unique? Now I'm just a woman like 50% of the world, but I'm an Aussie woman, and that is special

[Jenna Marie]

I obsessed about it constantly for the duration of transition/the first year or so. It's tapered off since then, and now I mostly think about it when someone or something reminds me (which does happen regularly, between visits to this web site and plenty of trans friends or people who post about trans politics). But it's less of an obsession now than the level of passion I give to thinking about lesson plans...

[Cin]

73.2% of my day.

or

about 40 minutes an hour.

[Darylik]

For the past months after I discovered everything, it's been the constant proverbial mouse running his wheel to light up the bulb. Just he's been running a bit to fast and blowing the bulb out a few times.