Hey all!
I'm a 25 year old cis woman who is love with an amazing person. We met and she identified as a man at that point, though more effeminate of a man that i had ever dated, I enjoyed the sensitivity, the listening to me, and several other traits that weren't part of my usual pick of men. Shortly after we started dating, she approached me and asked me to tell her my deepest most darkest secrets about my gender identity, and sexuality. She knew I was bi from the start as I don't like to hide that and find out my partner is homophobic and thinks I'm a wretch, but I went into more detail about the kink and BDSM and kink scene that I like.
That is when she admitted to enjoying women's clothing, and the though of being a girl! Lemme just say it didn't clue in, I'm a bit of a putz lol.
As time has gone on she has transitioned to wearing mostly women's clothes around the house. Unless we have guests, as she's not out and is scared of rejection. I am trying to help her with her confidence, as I want everyone to know the amazing, sexy, and wonderful woman she is. But I'm a bit biased heh.
Finally I suggested that we start working towards what will make her more happy, and her becoming a woman. This is after I had a frustrated blow up that I didn't always want to have her dress up as a woman and sometimes I wanted a damn man. I saw the hurt on her face, and after some calm down time we talked about it. Of course I apologized for being so insensitive and she understood, as she had been flip flopping and confusing the living daylights out of me.
We are now on the same page, she wants to be a woman. She is tired of being a man, and always seems happier when she's in women's clothing, or when I do especially girly things for her, like give her a manicure and pedicure, colour her hair, or anything else that would be considered 'womanly.' I want to be there for her and so I signed up to this forum to learn how to help her better, and be that strong support she'll need through the coming changes she's going to face.
Though I did make one request that she wore a tux to our wedding because damn. She agreed, even if by that time she has breasts. She's going in a tux, and then she'll have a pretty dress for later heh.
We hail from Vancouver Island Canada, which thankfully is close to Vancouver a very accepting city of the LGBT community, and there is quite a few trans people here in our city.
See you all later,
-Kay.
