BEAUTY V/S PASSABILITY

[Ennaria]

We cant have both??? Very pretty and passable is my goal, Im ambitious

I agree! I'm aiming for both (I'm totally ambitious ). But realistically, I would be happy with either. I'm finally me, and nothing will take that away! 

<3

[Hailey zy]

I'd rather be ordinary then have something give me away which i can't control.

[Sabrina]

Since my hormones haven't done much to my face as of yet to make me look more female, I'm going to have to go with beauty and bombshell transsexual. I'm tall, skinny, descent at makeup, and look great in a mini skirt with heeled boots. I hope to look more female in the face department someday but for now I'll work with what I have.

[Zumbagirl]

I didn't do everything I did because I was hoping for a shot at a sport illustrated swimsuit model. I did it so that I could blend into a crowd and just disappear and go unnoticed. That was my goal. The problem I began seeing during my transition is that women can also be very competitive, so it's a sort of keeping with the joneses sort of thing. That was until I said, enough and stopped worrying about it.

[Jennygirl]

I think I was much more bombshell in the beginning, and I have cooled down to more ordinary.

In the beginning I thought I might end up a very girly girl. I could not have been more wrong. I am much more of a badass type of girl.

Still, I wouldn't mind bringing back some aspects of bombshell because it is a lot of fun when you're in the mood for it.

[Lostkitten]

Beautiful trans. I don't like being one of millions. I like standing out, as long I am treated with respect. In the end I can go stealth but I wouldn't want anti gay/les/bi or trans people around me anyway. So best people know what is up. Even if it is not obvious.

[Christine Eryn]

I think I was much more bombshell in the beginning, and I have cooled down to more ordinary.

In the beginning I thought I might end up a very girly girl. I could not have been more wrong. I am much more of a badass type of girl.

Still, I wouldn't mind bringing back some aspects of bombshell because it is a lot of fun when you're in the mood for it.

Honey, you're as much of a bombshell now as you've ever been! 

As for me, I already pass to an extent that strangers call me ma'am or miss or can't really figure out how to address me. This has been a recent and unexpected phenomenon. So when I get my FFS I expect to be gorgeous, as I think the magic of HRT has really helped. I do get compliments from my trans friends too. Plus I look damn good with makeup. 

[herekitten]

I can't help but wonder how a natal female would answer this question.   As for me, if I had my choice and it being a black or white question -- I would go with ordinary woman. Ordinary can become extraordinary with the right clothes and makeup ;-) . I do not know if I would enjoy the other type of attention.  As of this writing, it does not appeal to me.

[Jennygirl]

Honey, you're as much of a bombshell now as you've ever been! 

As for me, I already pass to an extent that strangers call me ma'am or miss or can't really figure out how to address me. This has been a recent and unexpected phenomenon. So when I get my FFS I expect to be gorgeous, as I think the magic of HRT has really helped. I do get compliments from my trans friends too. Plus I look damn good with makeup. 

Thank you Christine! It's pretty much an ever evolving process isn't it? Congrats on getting to the stage you are at, sounds like you already have a great confidence about your presentation which is only going to help in all regards. I remember when I was crossing the threshold, I still think that was the most exciting time in transition other than coming out to myself. Enjoy every moment!

Seriously though, I used to wear dresses day in and day out. Heels, glamour makeup, the whole gamut. All day every day. Now I feel weird wearing these things because I know it puts me on the spot and I haven't been in that sort of mood lately. I was always a bit more laid back pre-transition, and I think now that the initial huzzah of transition has passed I am seeing who I truly am.

My final step is the body contouring surgery in a month, and then I am DONE! Can't wait to revisit some bombshell stuff once I feel complete from head to toe. Definitely some more huzzah moments left in me

[Lady_Oracle]

If you could choose to be a bombshell looking transsexual who is NOT so passable or to be perceived as a passable GG woman but ordinary-looking, which one would you choose?

I know many T-girls who are Goddesses but do NOT pass cos of their voice for example while others are super duper passable with no trace whatsoever of their past but are average-looking.

You prefer to be a BOMBSHELL TRANSSEXUAL or ORDINARY-LOOKING WOMAN?

I'm pretty much both I guess depending how I'm dressed and makeup wise but I do have my voice down. But idk what you would consider average looking so yeah  cause I do stand out from most women in my area due to my hair. A lot of them flat iron where as I keep my hair in its natural state which is really curly. If I put on make up that's my bombshell state I think.

[Madison (kiara jamie)]

I would rather be 100% passable than a bombshell transsexuals any day

[V M]

I understand that both beauty and passability are rather important to many of us, but most important to me is feeling comfortable in my own skin

I may or may not pass in the public eye, I may or may not be considered beautiful by others, more important to me is how do I feel about myself?

Our messed up world keeps me awake at night as it is, more important to me is if can I go to bed with the confidence that I have done my best to be a decent person

[Wild Flower]

Blending. My beauty is my personality and sex appeal.

Its like a polish perfume rock versus being a beautiful plastic rock.

But I rather be a diamond.

[Jennygirl]

I would rather be 100% passable than a bombshell transsexuals any day

Too late! You appear to have completed both!

[April_TO]

Passability is my choice. It makes it easier for me to walk into anyone and/or pursue a normal life.
I had my nails done yesterday full of a CIS woman and one girl just started talking to me and not a single look of doubt was given.

So I choose to blend ladies xo

April

[lilredneckgirl]

passing  has  always  been  one  of  those  topics.
  me,  i  just  go  out  and  enjoy  life.  Always  seemed  to  me,  focusing  on  passing  was  a  hassle  that  only  benafited  other  people  around  me,  and  was  actualy  hiding  who  i  was,  like  putting  on  a mask  to  hide my  identity.
  a bit  of  history.  yep,  had  srs  years ago.  then  breast  aug.    a  wee bit  of  laser  on  the  face  hair.
  i  had  Eugene  Schrang  as  my  surgon.  ill  never  forget  his  words  when  i  was  leaving  the hospital. 

"  you  did  it,  you  made  it.  Now,  go  live and  enjoy  your  life.  dont  waste  it chasing  rainbows"

I  never  had  voice  surgery  or  training,  never  did  face  surgery,  and  never  worried  about  passing  per  say.    Im  me.  spent  45  years  in  a  guys  world,  and  enjoyed  some  of  the  things I  did. 

  The  way  I  see  it,  and  me,  I  am  gender  blessed.  I  corrected  the  issues,  but get  to  live  in  my  choice  of  gender  roles.  I  can  fit  into  the  guys  world  as  '  one  of  the  guys'  or  I  can  go  over  to  the  girls  side  with  equal  acceptance. 
I  never  worried  about  the voice  or  other  tell  tales.  I  get  the "sir"  al  the  time  around  strangers,  and  dont  even  challenge or  correct  it.  they  are  strangers,  and  chaces  are ill  never  see  them  again.    In  circles  of  friends,  I  will  discretely correct  a  new comer,  "  Im  Lisa,  Im  a  girl,  dont  mind  the  voice,  God  gave  it  to  me  for  a  reason".   

  I  tell a  lot  of  girls,  dont  sweat  the  small  stuff.  it  over  shadows  the  important  things  if  you  allow it  to.    get  out  there,  and  figure  out  where  you  fit  on  that  wonderfull  gender  scale. 
  Attitude  over  appearance,  gets  you  a  lot  further  in  life.   

 

[Steph34]

I think the two go hand in hand, really. Having more attractive feminine features would certainly make it so much easier to pass. Indeed, trying to pass better is a motivator behind my efforts to improve my appearance. If I could choose only one, it would be passing, because I really do not want to go through life being greeted with 'sir' or 'man' every time I go out; it is a constant reminder of my suffering. However, both are important to me for so many reasons, and what pains me so much is that I could have had both (and almost did) if I had transitioned 5 years sooner. It makes every day a struggle to know that beauty and passability, once so easily attainable, are both out of reach. I think I could live with either one, but not neither. I transition to be the best person I can be, but the haters are probably right; life will be hard as a trans woman who is neither beautiful nor passable. I can try and maybe I will be surprised; it would not be the first time.