i was going to post some of this the other day but i had trouble getting onto susan's for some reason
i kept getting an error page saying - page cannot be found so i kept re typing and refreshing but had no luck for a few days. then when i did get on it kept logging me off and saying error again so i left it and it seems ok now.
(did anyone else have this?)
well, where do i start?!
i have some questions and things i need to get out i suppose. any information, experiences, advice, opinions etc would be so appreciated! thank you!
sorry if it gets long and boring and if its things you have heard millions of times before.
i cant stop thinking about this - i am a male trapped in a females body, telling someone etc - it is there nearly all the time. and is really begining to become i guess an obsession. it is making me terribly miserable and frustrated etc. i feel quite suicidal again. is it too much to ask for that i have the body i SHOULD have?
i often feel i am being punished.
i desperately want to tell someone but i really am not sure how to say it. or when to say it. who to say it to. etc etc. i worry they will laugh, never speak 2 me again, spread it around, think im a freak etc. i know everyone goes through this so im not saying im the only one but it is just something which is bothering me right now.
i am seeing a general counsellor on the nhs for depression right now and i want to tell her but i just am unsure. and im not sure she deals with that sort of thing. and if i then begin to see another person my parents will be suspicious. no one knows yet. i am scared she may tell my parents as it is a pretty big thing to come out and say.
it kind of feels like living 2 lives. the rare times i get to be my true self i feel almost care free. that isnt very often though and i havent had any treatment so when it comes to using the loo or something, it kinda spoils the good moment. is it possible to live 2 lives and be happy? at the moment im not happy but could it work out do you think?
there r some people i think i am ok about knowing once i tell them but then i know that other people are going to know (in the family). i dont want some people to know. at least not yet.
can you go through treatment without parents etc knowing until a certain way into it? (i live with my parents) i think they will think its a phase or from watching something like boys dont cry but its not a phase! if it is its been with me as far back as i can remember, so a pretty long phase eh?!
how would i get a gender specialist appointment and how much would it cost roughly (in the UK)? what can i expect from the appointment etc?
around how much would full transiton cost?
i kinda want to find a girl who likes me 4 me. doesnt force me to do things the way lesbians do, who accepts me as the male i am. u know? i just am not sure there a girl like that out there. and where to meet her?!
when u get aroused and want to masturbate u kinda wana do it the way a guy does (sorry). and when i imagine being with a girl i imagine me as male bodied not as i am now. it kinda makes me feel depressed that its not what i have. and i end up getting turned off. i HATE to see myself naked, i just feel so sick
my mum always said she was pleased when i was a girl (although they were expecting a boy so it was a shock) as they only have boys apart from me. and she also says things like your pretty or things like one day youl be a good mum and it just makes me cringe! and i wana say i might not have kids ok!!! it also makes me feel guilty that she says shes proud of me and that im the only daughter makes me special and she cant wait to my wedding to a nice guy and when i give her grandkids etc etc. it just makes me feel so awful. am i selfish to feel this way? and selfish to still want to go through with being a full male?
the list goes on. i just dont know what to do i guess
when can i escape from this, its destroying me