Chat questions

[Newgirl Dani]

Well that was interesting, I've never been in there and was not sure at first what the heck I was doing.  I figured it out though, I have a couple of questions, do most people from the forums use their usual name from here? Or is the main idea to have anonymity?  For a moment there it made me feel old and out of it, until I figured it out  .  Oh well, new stuff is good.   Dani

[Cindy]

Not sure Dani, I very occasionally go on chat and well who else could I be

Lots of people tend to prefer one or the other but of course anywhere is available to members to enjoy and interact

[Miss_Bungle1991]

I just use the same screen name there as I do here.

[JLT1]

I'm Jennifer....that's what my driver's license says.   I've gone through a lot to be Jennifer, to be me.  Why would I want to be someone else?

Jennifer

[Newgirl Dani]

Thanks I just wasnt sure.

I'm Jennifer....that's what my driver's license says.   I've gone through a lot to be Jennifer, to be me.  Why would I want to be someone else?

Jennifer

I didnt mean for the question to imply anything, I was just curious as I scanned the names and quite a few were just various alterations of random letters like:  ZZzZ  etc. and the ones that seemed like they were a name, I had never seen before over here on the forum.  This was the first time I ever ventured over there, never been in a chat room before.   Dani

[Chelsey]

I feel really stupid asking this but is the act of becoming a transwoman like being on hrt and waiting for grs and ffs considered transexual? And when you've met your goals and finally merged into you is that when your transgendered? Forgive my ignorance please? Or is it just how you feel like describing yourself?

[stephee72]

Being transgendered is really a very broad subject. Based upon what a lot of people would tell you it's feeling like you've been born in the wrong body ....but technically you are transsexual if you are a male or female and start taking hormones to change your body into the other sex ...at that moment you've actually somewhat become transsexual. Dont get me wrong thats what I was told from someone when i recently decided to do so.  Frankly being labeled a human being would be good enough. Its hard enough feeling this way and then being labled too. Good luck in your journey.

[JLT1]

HI,

According to the Susan's Place WIKI...."Transgender is the state of one's "gender identity" (self-identification as woman, man, or neither) not matching one's "assigned sex" (identification by others as male or female based on physical/genetic sex). "Transgender" does not imply any specific form of sexual orientation; transgender people may identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, or asexual. The precise definition for transgender remains in flux, but includes:

"Of, relating to, or designating a person whose identity does not conform unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female gender roles, but combines or moves between these."[1]

"People who were assigned a sex, usually at birth and based on their genitals, but who feel that this is a false or incomplete description of themselves."[2]

"Non-identification with, or non-presentation as, the sex (and assumed gender) one was assigned at birth."[3]"

So, if your assigned gender and your gender identity are different, you are transgender. 

the term "Transsexual" gets problematic.  Again, from the WIKI, "The definition of "transsexuality" is somewhat debated. One common definition is that a transsexual is a person who believes that his or her body does not reflect his or her true 'inner' identification of physical sex or gender. Another common definition is that a transsexual is a person who has had or plans to have medical or surgical treatments that alter his or her body to better reflect what the individual believes is his or her true gender. The first definition allows greater freedom for individuals to self-identify as a transsexual. The latter defines the term based on actual or planned operative status and makes it more an external label than a term of self-definition."

The first really seems to describe transgender and the second, transsexual.  I tend to use the second part of the transsexual definition for  transsexual and make transgender an umbrella term for people who do not identify with the assigned sex. 

However, people will disagree.  It's a label that helps define people, for good or for bad.

I just go back to being Jennifer.  I am a woman who corrected a birth defect. 

Hugs

Jen

[stephee72]

I love that ....you're just a woman who had to correct a birth defect ...that is a fantastic definition... kudos.