I think I'm becomeing a magnet for strange men

[immortal gypsy]

In the hospitality and gaming industry you partly flirt, smile, give good customer service and be symperthetic all at once. These helps in sales, tips and keeping your job. Now while your regulars know it is an act and you are paid that this is our job, what we are like out of uniform off the clock is different. For the past few months I have had the odd people I have never seen before, (as in have not even placed a bet with me before) try and ask me out for a drink after work, some of them a little bit hard. (Thank you for security procedures). Today took the cake

Today I was waiting for a friend to go to lunch in a busy city train station. Waiting aroud the station guards (mamma gypsy raised no silly girl), when along comes some guy talking to me. Starts off telling me his name, (Oh boy here we go again). Asks if I come to the city often and what are my plans today. Me being the polite little lass that I am tell him (all but my name of course). Then he asks if I would like to hang out today, (umm didn't you here I was waiting for a friend drongo). Thankfully as I ended the conversation after that and started to walk away he went the other way. I'm starting to feel like I'm becoming a magnent for strangers in work and the real world. This never happened before, why now. By cthulu can't I just meet a nice girl for once please. I tackled hugged my friend when he came turned up 15 min later (his words).

Shout out to the guy who saw the whole thing. Nothing eventuated I only saw you as I was walking away but I hope you would of stepped in if it did

[barbie]

In the hospitality and gaming industry you partly flirt, smile, give good customer service and be symperthetic all at once. These helps in sales, tips and keeping your job. Now while your regulars know it is an act and you are paid that this is our job, what we are like out of uniform off the clock is different. For the past few months I have had the odd people I have never seen before, (as in have not even placed a bet with me before) try and ask me out for a drink after work, some of them a little bit hard. (Thank you for security procedures). Today took the cake

Today I was waiting for a friend to go to lunch in a busy city train station. Waiting aroud the station guards (mamma gypsy raised no silly girl), when along comes some guy talking to me. Starts off telling me his name, (Oh boy here we go again). Asks if I come to the city often and what are my plans today. Me being the polite little lass that I am tell him (all but my name of course). Then he asks if I would like to hang out today, (umm didn't you here I was waiting for a friend drongo). Thankfully as I ended the conversation after that and started to walk away he went the other way. I'm starting to feel like I'm becoming a magnent for strangers in work and the real world. This never happened before, why now. By cthulu can't I just meet a nice girl for once please. I tackled hugged my friend when he came turned up 15 min later (his words).

Shout out to the guy who saw the whole thing. Nothing eventuated I only saw you as I was walking away but I hope you would of stepped in if it did

Yes. It always happens once you change your appearance.

I also once attracted unwanted people. Wearing decently prevented, to some degree, such unsolicited approaches by strange people. Of course, it does not necessarily mean that you should purchase very expensive fashion items. Wear classy.

barbie~~

[Cindy]

Now if only you had your b->-bleeped-<-ipes!

Sorry.

I had a taxi driver read poetry to me the other day. Guys are just ............... weird?

[Zoetrope]

It's the T. The elixir of irrationality :~D

[big kim]

Weirdo magnet here!I expect to be chatted up by someone in his 50s called Malcolm who lives with his Mum and goes trainspotting and collects crisp packets(it's happened twice).Or a Dexter(this guy had an extremely menacing feeling around him,he's still in prison for stabbing someone in the neck with a fork)

[immortal gypsy]

Yes. It always happens once you change your appearance.

I also once attracted unwanted people. Wearing decently prevented, to some degree, such unsolicited approaches by strange people. Of course, it does not necessarily mean that you should purchase very expensive fashion items. Wear classy.

barbie~~

Work I'm in uniform so I don't have a lot of lee way. By a strange quirk of fate, the top that I wear is the same one that I wore pre transition (only a new issue as it was getting old ).

[rosinstraya]

Maybe these characters think you've got some inside info due to your job? (!) 

Seriously, you are right to just keep your wits about you in these places. Train stations I think are the magnet, not you dear Gypsy, I have to walk past/by/through one most days and it is apparent that there is a "right old mixture" of folk hanging around from time to time.

[Ms Grace]

Some guys think a woman by herself in a public space clearly needs to be approached and talked to. A girlfriend of mine, catching a train home at night a few years ago, had some guy sit next to her in a mostly empty carriage and started chatting with her. What was particularly scary was that he said he was just out of prison and looking to make new friends. WTF?

[Cindy]

Some guys think a woman by herself in a public space clearly needs to be approached and talked to. A girlfriend of mine, catching a train home at night a few years ago, had some guy sit next to her in a mostly empty carriage and started chatting with her. What was particularly scary was that he said he was just out of prison and looking to make new friends. WTF?

I think that was LordKat

[barbie]

About 6 years ago, I was waiting on a seat in a train station. One young guy suddenly sat in the front of me, smiling at me and keeping watching me. I guess I saw some saliva from his mouth. Apparently he was a mentally-retarded.

I looked again my clothes. No particular thing. I lamented why I always attract this kind of people in the street.

barbie~~

[antonia]

I think you might be attracting all men but unfortunately it's only the weirdos that act on it without being given any signals, it might be hard in a work situation but in your personal life I find that being firm and either ignoring them, turning away or walking away is a strong enough signal and safer than starting a conversation that you really did not want to get into.

Just my 2 cents

[Sabrina]

This is what I'm afraid of. Having strange men bothering me. Hopefully, my perpetual angry look keep the shallow, weak, willed weirdos from annoying me. Only the brave dare to bother me.

[herekitten]

I worked in the hospitality industry for a few short years bartending at a world class resort.  Even there in that posh place, they came out of the woodworks. One day they'd come in with their wife on a date and the next night they would be alone sitting at the bar asking me out to dinner and drinks -- Yes, I would be like "what the heck?" .  I learned very fast that it is the nature of the industry. The male bartenders made it their personal meatmarket.  On a couple of rare occasions I had a weak moment and did go to dinner with someone I thought was decent.  What did he present me with upon greeting me at the door for the first time?  Nope - not flowers.  I got a side of beef - as in half a cow - all nicely packaged and ready for the freezer. Oh, and lest I forget - he also brought me indian corn.  I still laugh about that to this day, because of the uniqueness creepiness and ?thoughtfulness?? I found out later his family owned a major meat processing operation. He was a total gentleman, but that whole evening I kept wondering if he was mentally breaking out my body into meat parts.   Yes, they are everywhere and sometimes we even date them 

[WFane]

Weird old people who want me to work for my change when driving through the toll booth... "Smile for me, honey!"
I... It's the only time I feel like I pass, so I take it for what it's worth. But then someone misgenders me and I get even more confused.

[ImagineKate]

About 6 years ago, I was waiting on a seat in a train station. One young guy suddenly sat in the front of me, smiling at me and keeping watching me. I guess I saw some saliva from his mouth. Apparently he was a mentally-retarded.

I looked again my clothes. No particular thing. I lamented why I always attract this kind of people in the street.

barbie~~

This happened to me in the supermarket. I was going about my business, then suddenly this teenage appearing kid, mouth open and drooling, came up to me and said, "HEY LADY, HOW YOU DOIN TODAY?" in my face with bad breath and all. Um wtf... Thing is his parent (or whoever the adult was with him) just laughed it off. I definitely think he has some disability so I kinda just brushed it off but I stayed a bit far.

[Newgirl Dani]

If you must talk, casually mention a couple choice mental disorders, and how 'someday' you may get help with them, just not right noooowww.  Without raising your head, look upwards at him and smile.  He will vanish.     Dani

I suppose you could call this style the Norman Bates method of pest removal.

[Monika1223]

If you must talk, casually mention a couple choice mental disorders, and how 'someday' you may get help with them, just not right noooowww.  Without raising your head, look upwards at him and smile.  He will vanish.     Dani

I suppose you could call this style the Norman Bates method of pest removal.

That is awesome

[misty2]

Work I'm in uniform so I don't have a lot of lee way. By a strange quirk of fate, the top that I wear is the same one that I wore pre transition (only a new issue as it was getting old ).

It is going to keep happening. The problem is that I think you are just hot.

I remember the first time I was objectified. I was so upset...

Because, it made me feel good.

I thought objectification would never happen to me. I thought It was only for fairy tales.

Kind Regards, Danielle

[Devlyn]

Weirdo magnet here!I expect to be chatted up by someone in his 50s called Malcolm who lives with his Mum and goes trainspotting and collects crisp packets(it's happened twice).Or a Dexter(this guy had an extremely menacing feeling around him,he's still in prison for stabbing someone in the neck with a fork)

Because:

A) Kim never learns
B) Everyone deserves a second chance
C) Kim never learns
D) Kim never learns

[Jill F]

Mine got even stranger now that I wear my wedding ring again. (Had the old one melted down to make it...)

The last one at the grocery store was following me, cornered me in the liquor section and wanted me to share a twelve pack of IPA with him. 

As if! 

I mean, that's like WAY too many carbs.   What was he thinking?