Anyone here who changed their sexual orientation from female to male?

[suzifrommd]

Since my SRS, I've becoming curious what it would be like to be with a guy. I had my first date with a man this past weekend (story here if you're curious).

Has anyone else dated exclusively woman before their transition and then tried dating men afterward?

How did it work out?

Any tips?

How did you know you were attracted to men? What did that feel like? Were there signs that helped convince you it was the right thing?

Were you ever scared? I mean, I've never imagined I'd be in any danger if I went home with a woman, but I'm far from having that sort of confidence with a man, even after a few dates. How did you know when it would be OK to go home with him?

Anything I can learn from the collective wisdom of Susan's Place would be appreciated.

[alexbb]

I know what you mean, I cant wait to transition to find out! Maybe have a bf and a gf? The possibilities!!!

[Beth Andrea]

I've never had any interest in having a guy (or anyone/anything else) inside me in the back...oral is ok, but no back there.

Interestingly, once I started transitioning (and I sensed a "phantom" vagina, which I still do) I have cravings--CRAVINGS--to have a guy in me in the front. And yes, sexual interest in men re: their shoulders, arms, short hair, etc has increased.

Before, I'd say I was 90%-->F/10%-->M...now it's down to 80f/20m.

How much is actual change -v- more internal acceptance? I don't know.

[April_TO]

I am still attracted to a man. However, the thought of dating a woman has crossed my mind after HRT which I find weird. However, I'm still very much into straight men and would love to be married to one someday.

I wish you all the best. Be used to being dominated and also being looked after. You'll be his queen xoxo

[Sabrina]

The jury is still out on this one for me. I could see myself being with either. I am finding myself more and more lonely as time goes on. There is someone out there for everyone; I'm sure of it. I naturally and still am attracted to the ladies but I guess I haven't found any guy I'm interested in as of yet. Fun adventure to be on

[Beth Andrea]

I am still attracted to a man. However, the thought of dating a woman has crossed my mind after HRT which I find weird. However, I'm still very much into straight men and would love to be married to one someday.

I wish you all the best. Be used to being dominated and also being looked after. You'll be his queen xoxo

OMG that set off my "how romantic!" heartbeat...

I have no idea why, as I like more of a 50/50 relationship...

[April_TO]

My first date with a straight guy was such an experience. How he would wrap his arms around my shoulders and would hold my hands and kiss it whenever we hit the red light. You feel like protected and safe.

I couldn't describe it but definitely one to remember

OMG that set off my "how romantic!" heartbeat...

I have no idea why, as I like more of a 50/50 relationship...

[April_TO]

It sure can feel lonely at times girl. But keep that pretty face up and enjoy life. There's always a lid for every pot babe.
Be positive and you'll find that person.

Love,

April

The jury is still out on this one for me. I could see myself being with either. I am finding myself more and more lonely as time goes on. There is someone out there for everyone; I'm sure of it. I naturally and still am attracted to the ladies but I guess I haven't found any guy I'm interested in as of yet. Fun adventure to be on

[LivingTheDream]

Well, I'm not really experienced in either but, before started transitioning, was into females 100%. Never thought of a guy like that, that thought was just icky. Now I am not so sure. It has definitely switched a bit, maybe bi now.

I never really dated as a guy, had like a gf for a few weeks, nothing really sexual ever happened and ya, never had a bf. I kinda wanna try both though now, lol.

I am still mostly in guy mode tho, think I still mostly look like a dude, so, atm, guys would be a no go for me, but gotta say, have had thoughts about it lately, even found myself thinking to myself that a couple I saw where cute.. sooo, atm would say still mostly into girls but am open to the possibility of a guy sometime in the future tho, when things with me mostly, change.

I am not sure if its the hrt doing it or if am just allowing myself my options, being more open with myself or sort of like, well am trans, already kinda messed up, so at this point, what does it matter, lol, or some combination of all or some.

[Damara]

I've not started medically transitioning yet, and as far back as I can remember having "attraction" I was attracted to men.. but I know I'm attracted to guys because.. I'm not sure, I know that I get all kinds of naughty thoughts and feelings even when I see an "average" guy at times.. lol!! I never feel this way about girls, I just want to be surround by girls and talk to them about everything, and be good friends.. like a desire to be sisterly, but never sexual. ok, I just rambled a lot. Time for sleep, Damara! 

[April Lee]

Going into HRT, I wondered a great deal about this very subject. Now a year into it, I can't say my orientation is completely clear to me. As a male, I was completely heterosexual, but occasionally got the tingles when meeting a few select males. I also fantasized about the idea of being with a male as a female. As my HRT has progressed, I would say the tingles with seeing males has grown a little stronger. But I find it much easier to connect emotionally with females and an emotional connection is everything to me. I have had a few experiences with women where I certainly could have seen the possibility of that happening. I am suspicious that if I met the right man, and I was half way convinced that he could see me as a girl, I would literally fall into his arms, but that hasn't happened yet. 

[Sammy]

Yes, the same thing happened to me as well - and I would not say that I was extremely happy about it. Took me by complete surprise and actually has made my life more difficult (ironically, I can now connect and make friends with women (especially bisexual) much easier and some of them are (theoretically) quite hot (I know that they are attractive, but dont feel attracted towards them). Men are entirely different - surprisingly, there is much less logic than should be, less predictable and less determined. If I was looking for one night stand, there would be plenty of fish, but things become more complicated if You want something more emotional and long-term.

[Jessica Merriman]

Pre transition I was only interested 100% in females. That has changed now to 80% interest in males and 20% interest in females.

[JulieBlair]

Hi all  it's been a while,
I've always been easy going about men and women.  I went through a phase where I thought my problem was that I was gay.  Guys are lovely   I've spent most of my life living a heterosexual life style.  Women are lovely too   Now I'm mostly celibate, not entirely but mostly.  I've had to put off SRS for a year, but like Suzi am looking forward to that adventure as well.  The thing is whether I have been with a man or a woman, in my head and in my emotions I've always been the woman being made love to.  Seems strange, even to me, but it is the way things work in my head.

Cheers,
Julie

[bibilinda]

Hi, Suzi

Pre-transition I was only interested 100% in females, because I produced testosterone. But it was a lie, I always wanted to BE them rather than to HAVE them. And I never functioned sexually as a man anyways, I just wanted to conform to the rules of society because I didn't even now I was transgender, I just wanted to be a woman but didn't know what to do about it until I found sites like this one and I opened my eyes.

When I started HRT I started losing interest in women. 15 months after starting HRT I had my orchi and from that moment on, since I produce zero testosterone now, I only see women as competition, I am not attracted physically to them at all.

I met my BF a couple of years later (after orchi). I discovered love for the first time. I never thought of marrying someone when I was living a life in the wrong gender, now marrying him some day is my dream. Honestly if I hadn't met him, probably I would have terminated myself or done something crazy like detransitioning and taking T instead of E, IDK, because I have tons of self-esteem issues coming from my 100% non-supportive family, specially my mom big time, and my dad a bit less, not to mention all my siblings. My BF is the reason for me to continue living and transitioning now. I love feeling like and being a woman 100% when I'm with my BF. I've gotten a confidence that I never got before, because I am a shy person, not a people person, think about Adrian in Rocky I, I am that type personality-wise, only without the glasses and much taller lol.

Love is a wonderful thing. When you meet the right person, the only thing you are scared of, is losing him for whatever reason. Those jerks that treat women badly and like objects are the only ones to be wary and scared of. Estrogen without T for an extensive period of time helps you develop a female intuition and you instinctively realize when a person is a jerk, so common sense tells you to stop communicating with them. Then the right person comes along like it happened to me, and you feel safe and loved immediately.

Oh BTW congratulations for your SRS! All I could afford years ago was orchi and t-shave, and while I am ecstatic about having done that, you have actually done the ultimate thing, and that's great, kudos to you!!!

Cheers

Bibi B.